Now That’s Just Ugly…

Alright you all. We have reached a sad milestone on my blog. I tend to stay away from even mentioning this kind of stuff because it’s so rare and to be honest, it just doesn’t really seem like I’m being a good steward of this blog if I’m complaining about things like this.

BUT.

I received several e-mails this morning (as did my friend Jess) alerting us to the fact that someone had decided to go on a little rampage and leave some Christian-hating, swear-word infused, extremely cruel comments on my blog. By the time Jess let me know (thank you Ann Voskamp for the head’s up and for caring for me so sweetly…), she had already deleted them and banned the IP address associated with whomever it was. I didn’t think it was in my best interest to read them based on what she shared so I told her to just get rid of them. I apologize if you were exposed to them.

Here’s how I deal with the negative stuff (because it WILL happen on occasion. It’s just life…). Every single negative comment I have seen about me or my blog has the potential to include something that might be true. Whether or not someone meant to be hateful is kind of irrelevant if there is a greater lesson that I am being taught about my integrity. Off the top of my head I can only think of three such occasions, where I felt someone came after me in an inappropriate manner but after reading and praying, I felt that there was actually a truth that I needed to deal with. In each of those cases, I contacted the person directly and we began a relationship. I am blessed to have all three of those women in my life to this day. Sometimes I think people just feel freedom to say things from behind a keyboard that they wouldn’t in real life, and I will not tell you that I ignore it because I don’t. I see it, and it hurts me because I am human and don’t have as thick of skin as I would like to have :)

With that said (and my point to all of this…) I would like to reiterate something I have said before on here and will repeat as often as necessary. You are free to contact me if you have issues you want to discuss or questions about anything I put on here-it’s public, and if I didn’t want it to be, I wouldn’t share. So I think that’s fair game. BUT.

BUT.

If you ever, ever, ever say something about my daughter that is anything less than respectful, you will be banned. Period. I have no interest in allowing that sort of thing here, and frankly, it disgusts me that a deceased child could be the victim of someone’s tirade. It’s the first time this kind of thing has happened where it warranted a response like this, and I hope it doesn’t happen again. In the event that you see that it has, please flag the comment and I (or Jess or Ann or someone) will address it.

I’m a very nice girl and it takes quite a bit to ruffle my feathers, but this? No. Not acceptable.

I thought I was fortunate enough to have heard about it before my dad did, but that wasn’t the case. In fact, he was so angry that he didn’t sleep last night :(

This whole post doesn’t apply to 99.9% of you, but so many of you had written me emails today that I thought it would be easier to just mention it here.

I’m going to pray for the person who said these horrible things about Audrey, but I want to confess something to you all. As I have processed this today I want to be honest and tell you that this wasn’t my natural inclination. I know it should be, but it wasn’t. I’m her mother and I won’t stand for it.

I’m fair game. You don’t have to like me, my religion, my choices, or anything I write (I hope you do, though…have I mentioned I’m a total people-pleaser? Gulp. :) ) I choose to write this blog and sometimes that means having to confront things I don’t want to. Thankfully, I feel like it has made me a better mom, wife, writer, and Christian because the “criticism” has almost always come with genuine love and concern (For example, I posted a picture of Charlotte in a sling that some people were concerned about. They let me know they were concerned and I just didn’t think it was worth the risk based on what they were saying, so I bought a safer wrap to keep her in until she was older. I didn’t feel that they were trying to bash me, but just help me with loving advice. But not in the Sister-Wives kind of way. Did anyone see that last night? WHOA.)

I have derailed.

The whole point was to say thank you for loving me so well, and for those of you who want to say ugly things about innocent babies, I think your bus is now leaving the station.

:)

I will be back soon with something more fun soon….:) And don’t feel like you need to defend me or even address this in the comments…I am totally fine. Just wanted to let you know what the scoop was since it was the first time we have dealt with it. I so appreciate you all!!!

We will be at Focus on the Family all day tomorrow so I will try to send out some Twitter pics. You all have a great Tuesday!
Ang


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  • Anonymous

    Extremely well-said, Angie! I’ve dealt with this before and it’s just unbelievable what people will say when they don’t have the Holy Spirit to guide them.

    You have such a way with words!

  • http://020110.blogspot.com Tahnie

    So sorry! You are the toughest woman ever. <3

  • http://beautifulikethis.blogspot.com Alissa

    Angie, I love reading your blog! Have a great trip to FOTF!

  • http://twitter.com/sprinklefriend Michelle Baker

    i have no idea what the comments that were left said, but i’m sorry you had that happen.

    something i’m sure you already know is that when people act in that way & say mean-spirited things, it’s 99% certain that it’s because they’re at a place in their own lives that they don’t like. and when they see someone who has what they are lacking, the only way they know to react is to tear that person down, kind of like putting into action the old saying of “misery loves company.” obviously that doesn’t make it okay, but sometimes if i try to remember that, it makes it MUCH easier to pray for that person. even if that person THINKS all is well in their own life, it quite clearly isn’t for their heart to be in such a place that would allow them to say things or do things that are so hurtful.

    praying for you…

    - michelle

  • http://ourimperfectlife.blogspot.com/ Debra

    Praying for you Angie! I hope that you do not ever take that hurtful comment to heart.

    And I am equally praying for the person that left the comment. I cannot fathom what is going on in their life to cause them to leave such hateful remarks. I pray whatever it is, they overcome it with Christ Jesus’ help!

  • Sonya Schroeder

    Wow I am sitting here in shock that anyone would have anything to say that was bad about your story. It is an amazing story of courage that you so willing shared with us to some how help us if it were to happen to us. Some people are so miserable in their own life they have to find something in someone eles to make them feel better. We will all pray for her and hope that the Lord can work on her heart through you Angie. You are amazing and love all that you have to say!!! Sweet love girl

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Rita-H-Baker/1291330841 Rita H. Baker

    You are such an inspiration. Many blessings to you and your family.

  • Southern Gal

    I know you don’t want comments about it, but you are a strong woman. I’m glad you were able to remove/ban the culprit. Looking forward to the next Bloom book.

    Have fun at Focus on the Family!

  • Anonymous

    Oh Angie, I’m so sorry to hear that these insults were hurled against your precious daughter and your family. I’m so glad I did not see them! As you know, when you stand for Christ, persecution will come. And when you feel the sting of it, look to the One who has been there before. I always think of 1 Peter 2:22-24. Thank you for handling this unfortunate situation so well and for continuing to be a light. Praying for you.
    ~Catherine

  • http://www.mvbhchronicles.blogspot.com/ Val

    i didn’t read any of the comments, but i just can’t imagine what negative things someone would have to say about ANY baby, let alone Audrey???? wow. i wonder if this lady has kids of her own?
    and it’s interesting to me that you are friends with the other women that posted nasty things about you in the past! being ugly and hateful in blog land just seems so junior high to me. these are adult women doing this stuff? bizarre.
    well keep doing what you’re doing angie! you are an inspiration.

  • Jdaniel4smom

    I think this so well written. I appreciate the way you have handled this.

  • Karen

    Angie,
    Well said. Whoever said those things, whatever they were needs our prayers. Thankfully you have people who love you and care for you looking out for you. I’m sorry that your family was hurt by the mean spiritness of others.
    God be with you all.

  • http://www.ktslifeisfunny.blogspot.com/ Katie

    Thank you for being an example of how to handle a difficult situation with grace and integrity.

  • StacyD

    I know you know this, Angie, but your precious Audrey is still changing the world. I know you’d rather have her here. I know you’re rather that God would have allowed her to be HERE, as a 2 1/2 year old, changing the world. But she still is. I think of her often, and I am so encouraged by your authenticity and steadfastness of faith. It has ministered to be greatly as I continue to walk a similar journey after having lost Isaac just 6 months after your precious Audrey.

  • Nellie

    Beautiful post but more importantly, beautiful blog! You and your family are an inspiration to me and I so enjoy reading your posts.

    Blessings, Love and Laughter to you and yours….ALWAYS!

  • http://mckeefamilylife.blogspot.com Melody Mckee

    I read your blog all the time but have never commented. I figured this is as good of a time as any. I CAN’T understand how people can be SO hateful. It saddens me to think there are people out there with SO much anger in their hearts, they would attack a person’s who’s heart is still healing from loss. I am not appologizing for those horrible people, but I’m still sorry. Wow. I love your blog and pray those certain hateful people will stay away :)

  • TabH

    DITTO on the “can’t sleep” thing. me too.

    my 12 and 13 year old daughters are (very) faithful readers of your blog (and Ann’s). They also (devoured) your last book, and they just attended their very first Selah concert the other evening. As they “get” to your blog before me **smile**, they sat incredulous, speechless, and deeply grieved beyond adolescent words yesterday…. and yes, my mother-rage kicked in full force, too. for them. for you. for mothers everywhere. and the only explanation i could give them:
    GIRLS, THIS IS *EXACTLY* WHY OUR PERFECT JESUS HAD TO HAVE OUR (Literal) HELL BEAT OUT OF HIMSELF ON OUR BEHALF, TO ATONE FOR US….. LEFT TO OUR OWN DEVICES, WE *ARE* DISGUSTINGLY SINFUL.
    It was a very sad day around here for us, too. It is funny to form “blog friends”…but you do. But more importantly, we are SISTERS IN CHRIST *Family* And family encourages and feels protective, too, when others are so very cruel. :)
    You guys are the REAL DEAL. Keep on, pressing on….. You are faithful servants!
    And by the way, tell your husband, it was SO REFRESHING to (not) attend a “look at me look at me” Christian concert! It was a “look at HIM–OUR SAVIOR” concert–and THAT was refreshing, indeed! We especially loved the entire church singing the African praise chorus that (i guess) he learned on the mission field as a child? Wow. Good Stuff.
    Be Blessed!

  • Anonymous

    I dealt with the uglies firsthand yesterday. I wrote a letter to the editor of our newspaper thanking some people who donated to our Ethiopian adoption. People commented on the story online with absolutely hateful and racist things. My mama bear came out. Mess with me, okay. But mess with my child and it’s on!!

  • Franchesca Cox

    been missing your blog Angie <3 Love you too.

  • http://jenileighsjourney.blogspot.com/ Jenileigh

    I love you all and admire the way that this was handled. The Lord has used each member of your family to teach me different things. How to love, how to forgive, how to react, how to praise and worship, how to have fun, how to glorify Him through any and every situation. Oh that I may but achieve a glimpse of the works that your family does and that I may but serve in a small way and that I may but grow on that path, the straight and narrow and continue to fight the fight with my head held high. You and your family are a light in a dark place and I thank-you Angie for putting yourself and your family out here for us.

    I am praying for those who are out to hurt you-I try to keep remembering that hurt people-hurt people and that they must be in some deep pain to stoop so low as to take blows at you and your family. May the Lord heal them. I love you.
    Your sister in Christ. Jenileigh

  • Allison

    So sorry you had such nasty comments. It is disgusting what people will do hiding behind their keyboard. So glad you are standing up for yourself and your beautiful family!

    And, yes, I did see Sister Wives…”Whoa!” pretty much covers it. :)

  • http://ashleyscarnivalride.blogspot.com Ashley

    It makes me sad that people can be so rude and hurtful :( You are so sweet and have a precious family!

  • http://www.dominicandkristin.blogspot.com kasmith03

    Have a wonderful day with Focus…can’t wait to hear more about what you are doing with them! How’s that new book coming along by the way….any chance you will share a bit of what it is about?! :)
    Kristin

  • http://www.untilthejasperwalls.blogspot.com Melissa Irwin

    Gosh I know you don’t need or want affirmation……but I’m just so sorry. I am reading a ton of books right now and I think I read this in “The Hole in our Gospel”….there is a scripture that I’ve read many times about how we will be hated (Christians). The author went as far as to say that if you are a Christian in this world and you are not being hated….that you should be worried. While hate hurts in a major ugly way…..I suppose it is still an honor, especially in light of the hatred (emotional and physical) that Christ received. I hope that as painful and awful as cruel remarks can be toward yourself or any of your lovely daughters, that you can find a moment to just be honored. You and your blog are a true force. You are truly helping people to see who Christ was and is and is to come. You know, he turned a few tables over in the temple when He had had enough….and you can turn tables over too. I totally just rambled way too much and not sure I even made sense. Sorry.

  • http://www.vibrant-designs.blogspot.com Julie

    That is horrifying. And I feel terrible for your dad. Mine would’ve been the same way. These grand-daddy’s LOVE their grandbabies, right?

    Hope all goes well at Focus on the Family! I have always wanted to go there…alas, it’s too far away. I’ll live vicariously through you :)
    Julie
    http://www.vibrant-designs.blogspot.com

  • Melissa

    Sister Wives….CRAZY! It’s a trainwreck that I can’t turn away from.

  • http://twitter.com/JMillerKelley Jessica Kelley

    It is so admirable and inspiring to me that you contacted people who had said hurtful things, and even prayed and found a grain of truth in others’ nasty criticisms. It is so obvious to anyone (well, I guess not anyone, but 99.9% of us) what a good heart you have.

    I reread parts of your book the other night, and it continues to encourage. Bless you and your family.

  • Jordan

    :(

  • http://twitter.com/ninesandquines ninesandquines

    i did not see the comments, but i will pray for that person’s heart….for someone to say hurtful things about an infant like audrey, they must have so much pain in their heart that they are screaming out for help and guidance….angie, before i started reading your blog a few years ago, i was not as compassionate as i am now. i was going through life with blinders on and only paying attention to my little world and how things affected ME….you have opened my eyes and my heart to God more than they ever have been and i want to thank you (as I have thanked God for leading me to your blog so my eyes could be opened to Him). through your grace, i have learned compassion. through your fogiveness, i have learned. and through this, too, i am seeing more of what a beautiful person you are….i only hope that this person who left that/those comment(s) can as well….

  • Mommachele

    Angie, you are an amazing woman! I was deeply saddened yesterday when I read those hurtful words about your precious baby girl! I decided to pray for their lost soul because I knew that is what we had to do…but I didn’t want to either!!! Here’s hoping today brings sweet words only! Have a safe trip! :)

  • K.

    Ughhh, some people disgust me too! If that person/people only knew that comments only make strong people stronger, perhaps they’d only put their noses in their own business.

    MckMama had a post the other day that had a whole LOT of negativity surrounding it. Of course, it was regarding her religious beliefs which stirs up the pot quite a bit. I will say the same thing to you, as I did to her… I (usually) completely disagree with what you say on a religious level. I am a Catholic woman raising my children Catholic, although I struggle with God, and the Bible frequently. I find the more that I know about God and the Bible, the more I question. Having said that, when it comes to your blog, and many others, I respect that you are a strong woman, I adore that you are a loving mommy, and I respect your work in your communities. If I didn’t want to read your blog, I wouldn’t be here. Here I am, because I want to be!!!

  • andrea

    angie
    im SO Sorry!!!!!

    you are loved! thank you for Sharing your life With uS!

  • http://mskelli.wordpress.com/ Kelli

    wow. Sometimes you have to stop and wonder what could bring a person so low that they have nothing better to do than insult a child, living or deceased. I am sorry that you have had to deal with something so heinous.

  • Andrea

    Sadly, yours is the second blog I’ve read this morning that had disturbing news about the ugly side of the internet. I’m so sorry that that happened to you. Words can hurt so deeply, even when they are unbelievably ugly and untrue. Some things should be off limits but for some sick people, nothing is sacred or off limits.
    Again, I’m so very sorry that you were the target of something so awful.

  • Allie

    Wow, I’m really sorry you had to go through this. I pray that this person’s heart will be touched and that they recognize the sting they have created. Some people just don’t have a filter, and I feel sorry for those people. Especially when they make comments about a poor little angel baby. That is NOT right! That is sick in fact. Very wonderful to stand up for your blog and your kids.

  • http://simplysimonsisters.blogspot.com desiree

    You are loved and your babies are more then precious! Thank you for being a great example to everyone. I am sorry about the negative side of sharing. -dez

  • Patti

    Thank you for sharing your heart in all aspects! I will be praying for those in need also!

  • Jen Mirabile

    awwe, you precious thing. i just can’t stand that someone had such nasty things to say. you and your sweet family are loved. :)

    and i did see that show!! whoa! :)

    miss chatting through e-mails! hope that otherwise you are doing wonderful!!

  • guest

    Your blog is inspiring and true. Don’t lose heart.

  • Jenny

    I’m so sorry this has happened, Angie. I love your blog and your precious family. You are such an encouragement to me, keep writing! :)

  • Jeanette

    I am sorry to hear this. FWIW, I think you handled it beautifully.

    I emailed you right after I found your blog, because you just inspired me so much. I spent a few days and read your words from start to finish. Actually, the day I finished, you were having baby Charlotte! You make me want to be a better person!

    So for any one person that wants to tear you down, remember that there are 100 more women that love and admire you!

  • Jandastark

    I am sorry you, your family and your father had to be subjected to such cruelty. God bless you all.

  • sara z.

    I realize you wrote that we do not need to defend you or address this issue but I have to. How appalling. I have been touched by your blog since I found it less than a year ago. You have handled so much difficulty in your life with the upmost grace. You are an admirable person. I am praying for you.

  • Rsbutcher

    LOVE you!!!!

  • Anonymous

    I simply want to say, “I LOVE YOU!”
    I am honored and blessed to call you friend and so thankful to be your sister-in-Christ.
    You are an amazing woman of God and I could go on, but to be honest…those of us who know you, KNOW YOU and you are a BLESSING to all of us!
    Hugs, sweet friend.

  • Haileyk

    I’ve seen this happening way too much lately. It’s just ridiculous how people can be so cruel and heartless. Their mama just didn’t raise them right…
    You handled it beautifully and just know that for every mean spirited comment, there are SO many silent readers that totally admire you.

  • http://www.heersinks3.blogspot.com Wizzy

    Sister Wives – haven’t seen it, but I live in Utah and there is a whole lotta buzz about it, in fact the Attorney General’s office is investigating it and may press charges for Bigamy. The family said they knew that was a possibility, but felt inclined to do the show anyway. I want to know who is going to support those 13+ children if their dad is in prison.

    Second, I am sorry about hurtful comments. I have what I lovingly refer to as my MAMA BEAR instinct, and it kicks in whenever I hear or see things that aren’t right involving my children. I often have to pray that God keeps that a little suppressed in me as my child has speech delays and is often picked on. I am sure your Mama Bear instinct kicked in big time when you heard about what was said, but I am impressed with how cool, calm, and collected you sound – although I realize it is written so I can’t see the actual response. I am sure your Dad has his Papa Bear instinct kick in as well. I will join you in praying for this person. Thanks for continuing to blog publicly, you bless many lives because of it.

  • http://www.itsspelledmaguire.blogspot.com Heather

    I just came across something similar to this on Facebook yesterday. A friend of mine who lost her precious daughter at 19 weeks was attacked by someone she went to high school with saying that the baby girl probably killed herself because of her parents. What kind of person says that? Sorry it just upset me and then to see that someone has said something to you about your Audrey, it just breaks my heart. I am so tired of people being ugly and hateful to others. Apparently their momma didn’t teach them that if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all!

    BTW-I watched Sister Wives Sunday night. Holy cow. That was interesting!

  • http://www.crazymiracle.com Amanda

    How awful. We all love you and your family, especially all of your precious girls. We will pray for the “offender” – I think you’ve handled this well, and think of how many people your words bless compared to the very few who want to act like this. {{hugs}}

  • http://duffomelia.com Duff

    Hi Angie,

    I read this short and insightful article about blog comments which really affected my opinion about them:

    http://www.marco.org/705431581

    I hope it helps you! It’s a concise argument as to why a number of bloggers have turned off commenting on their blogs. Here’s a quick summary, in case you don’t have time to read the whole argument:

    “I don’t make it difficult to give me feedback.

    What’s not possible is reaching my audience, on my site, without my permission.

    Given that this site represents me, and I’ve earned an audience over a very long time of people who generously allow me to take tiny slices of their attention on a regular basis, I don’t think that tightly controlling its content is unfair.”

    • http://pearlmusic.wordpress.com Megan

      This is an interesting article… am considering it for my own blog. I have a similar story to Angie’s, and I worry about putting my son’s story out there for comment. People can think whatever they want, but I don’t necessarily need to hear it.

      Angie, I’m so glad you didn’t read that garbage!

  • MLH

    Love to you and your wonderful family. I pity the hate someone must harbor to go on such a tirade against an innocent baby. I just finished the book The Power of the Powerless and was really impacted by the power of a baby’s life that is as short as Audrey’s was. She is so much stronger even today than this hateful person is proving him or herself to be. http://chaseandmore.blogspot.com/2010/09/power-of-powerless-value-of-life.html

  • Jen D.

    Sweetest Angie…I am a lurker! ;) I have to step out from behind my keyboard though and tell you what a very, VERY loving, accepting and beautiful person you are. Even in the darkness of hatred, you shine on with your loving and kind heart. To pray for a “hater” that said something UGLY about any of your girls is one of the many (MANY) reasons I admire you so very much!

    And while I have your attention, my dear, I might as well share a bit about myself! I’m a 33 year old, stay-at-home mother of 4. I am not currently a “practicing” Christian. I grew up Catholic and married a Catholic man, but we do not attend church and sometimes put down the structured religious practices of the current day. (Mine is a blended family as my husband was married previously and I had a child out of (gasp!) wed-lock) In our hearts tough we believe in God and I like to think we have passed on some religious ethics to our children (all teenagers now, so I’m very jealous of your beautiful babies!) I read your blog and loved your book.

    I’m not sure how to say this, I’m afraid it may come off weird/sad/un-Christian…so I’ll just do this in the “stream of conciousness” style….here goes…
    I feel closer to God when I read things you have written. Most of my days are spent without much thought about God, but when I read your blog (or book), which might not be everyday, I stop and thank the Lord for the gifts he has given me. I thank him for the gifts he has given you! Is it odd that I am ministered by children in this blog world? I was also brought closer to God through a young boy named Coleman Larson. His mom blogged during his battle with cancer and she continues to blog after we lost Coleman. She constantly thanks God for the gifts in her life. I would just be mad. The same can be said for you. Your continued faith after Audrey’s death amazes me. Can I tell you, I watched the video you posted of Audrey’s birth many, many times. To me it is the epitome of God’s love. To see smiles on your and Todd’s faces, makes my heart happy! I wish I had the kind of faith that you have. I don’t read the bible, I have never talked to Jesus the way you do, BUT, you do those things and you share them with me and maybe, maybe one day I will hear Him talking to me! For now, is it OK for me continue silently following you and letting your ministry seep into my heart?

    Shew…so that was my “stream” I am not going to proofread…I might chicken out and delete this comment completely! Just know that I respect you immensly, Angie and I love you and your beautiful family as though I’ve known you all my life. <3

    (jennifer.distler@gmail.com)

    • Anonymous

      Jen,
      Thank you for sharing your story…and heart. Since you read Ang’s blog, I have a feeling you know that we are all part of God’s amazing community. Angie has opened up her blog, as well as her heart, for us to come and share and be there for one another. I just wanted you to know that I’m so glad YOU come here. :) I also want you to know that I will be praying for you and your family. In fact, I just said a prayer for you….right now.
      Please don’t delete your comment. Ang welcomes you…just as the rest of us, her “Sundays” and friends, do. :)

    • Anonymous

      Your story it a little different than mine but the end result is the same. I feel a pull on my heart everytime I read this blog. It really calls to me and makes me explore my faith (or maybe lack-thereof). And I never thought I would like Christian music, but I love the songs on here. Glad you didn’t delete this comment.

    • Anonymous

      Your story it a little different than mine but the end result is the same. I feel a pull on my heart everytime I read this blog. It really calls to me and makes me explore my faith (or maybe lack-thereof). And I never thought I would like Christian music, but I love the songs on here. Glad you didn’t delete this comment.

  • Kelly

    How horrible :( I cannot believe how inconsiderate people can be! I pray that s/he will be convicted of their sin(s). All we can do is pray for the person who felt they needed to say horrible things about sweet precious Audrey. What you have been through is something no mother should EVER have to experience. I just cant even believe some people….its truly sad.

  • http://www.godssweetgift.blogspot.com Christy

    That’s great that you are on vacation! I am in the Springs and LOVE Focus! Praying you have a wonderful time here; would love the chance to meet up and hug you if you are ever back out here (is that weird? I hope not, I am a soft sided people pleaser too) and thank you for your testimonies. Have a wonderful trip!

  • Erin

    I know you are fine and don’t need “I’m so sorry for the hurtful things that someone said.” But I am just heartbroken. Thankfully, I did not see the comments. I will also be in prayer for that person. I love your blog, your girls, especially your sweet Audrey.

  • Anonymous

    Beautiful post… you are handling this with dignity and grace. I am only sorry that I had to read those comments. Very thankful that Jessica was “on top of it” and all of the Sundays have gathered around you with support!! Love your last few posts!

  • Anonymous

    Angie, I am so sorry someone said something so awful about sweet audrey. I know how hurtful that is, I cried for days when someone said that my little angel brenham looked like a monkey and that is was a terrible picture of him. Those are the only pictures we have of him and I cherish them so it was so painful to hear someone say that. I’m praying for you and the commentor. love your spirit!

  • http://www.bestoftheworsts.blogspot.com Alyssa

    I am grateful that I did not see these comments as well. You are indeed a strong person. I am so encouraged by the realness in your blog posts. We are human and it hurts when others say things. That you can search for the meaning behind the differences, or the comments people make and see where there is room fro growth and change is amazing. However there will be times that people will post unflattering things, and attack where it is totally inappropriate. I appreciate that you are real and speak of real feelings.
    I have blogged for some time and recently my posts have turned to reaching out, and even trying to figure out how to cope, not always handling things right, however we are human. Our son was diagnosed this summer with an autism spectrum disorder and I have been completely shocked at some of the horrible things people can say about ones grief and heartache. But God remains the center, and I love how you have kept HIM your focus as well as you deal with these things. I am able to read this and take something from you. Thank you for your strength. God bless you as you continue you blog.

  • Jenn

    I enjoy following this blog. I went through a misccariage a few months back and I bought I Will Carry You and it was a comfort and a blessing to me as I started to heal emotionally from it. I still think about my baby that we lost and people can sometimes say hurtful things. It makes me sad to know that there are people out there that are ignorant enough to say hurtful things about your daughter. I am glad of the way that you handled it and will continue to pray for your family.
    Blessings’
    jenn

  • Shabbyforme

    That person who did that is just EVIL!! Shame on them.. ~*Thank you LORD for a all the loving and spirit filled souls in the world~*

  • Kathy

    Girl, I have never heard or read anything out of your mouth that God didn’t use in my heart to be a better person. Your eloquence of speech is a true witness of His love and forgiveness.
    Daily we seem to get a glimpse of the sinfullness of this world either through blogs, news, public displays, but it is such a comfort to find a gentle place to land amongst this blog and the other wonderful Godly followers with their encouraging comments. I feel so priveledged to have followed you on your journey, albeit on the sidelines. One lovely thing to remember…..Audrey doesn’t care what has been said or thought….she is experiencing nothing but joy in the arms of her Savior!
    (just to give you a frame of reference to the phycho I am….I’m the one that approached you in tears…for touching my life in an important moment…at the Selah concert at the Lutheran Church in Omaha.
    Kathy

  • Dmat

    I could go on and say I’m so sorry Angie that you,your family ,and your father recently became a victim of some foolish persons evil behavior. but……….that is not what you wanted. So I think we all need to just pray for this sick person. Because what they did is ever so wrong. How low can a person get to make them wanna attack the sweet and innocent. ((((HUGS)))

  • Danielle Brigance

    Every time I see this happen to someone it makes my blood boil! How dare someone come here, to your place, to your daughter’s place, and do that? It’s totally unacceptable, and frankly….I hope karma kicks them in the rear!
    Love and hugs!

  • http://gitzengirl.blogspot.com gitzengirl

    I’m glad you didn’t read the comments. I’m glad I didn’t see the comments. there is a level of evil that is better left out of our sight. just know audrey’s name will always be remembered and spoken in love by me and so many others.

    love you, friend.

  • Tami

    One thing that I forgot to mention in my e-mail last night was that… AS YOU KNOW… losing a child not only changes your relationship with Christ, but it changes YOU as a mom. That’s something that people outside of this “club” that we didn’t ask to join don’t get. The protective shield that we put over our children is thicker and stronger than any tangible thing! You handled this with such grace and strength, Angie.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_WGHEF4CY4RUKQV4NJHITITPFVE Ang

    This may be a good time to tell you that I read your book, a book I may never have read were it not for this blog and the transparency you display on it. Your book changed me. I know that’s cliche` but God really used some parts of your experiences to speak to me, and for that I am grateful.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Jennifer-Cobb-Stramecki/532414231 Jennifer Cobb-Stramecki

    Hey Ang, I am a frequent reader but seldom comment. Thank you for your honesty. I now live near FOTF in CO, anything special going on there tomorrow I can join in on? Would love to meet you there and maybe meet some other Mama’s in the area as well. Let me know. ~Jen

  • Robyn (3girlsmom)

    GO MAMA!

    And I hope you do know how many of us ADORE you and will be ready to defend sweet Audrey as if she had been our very own. I was just telling a new friend about her yesterday at carpool. She is absolutely still an influence in my life and a precious glimpse of what heaven will be like.

    I am so thankful that you have shared her (and the other girls, too) with us.

    Robyn

  • Kelly

    Honey, let me tell you what, I’m proud of you :)
    Good job.
    I can’t say I would have reacted so nice.
    I’m so sorry someone felt the need to bash that little precious being…and lemme just say, that person’s got some issues.
    Sorry you guys had to go through this :(

    the first time I read your story, I fell on my knees.
    It broke my heart, girl.
    God must have been so real to you then.
    And now.

  • http://www.jackandmandy.com Mandy Hornbuckle

    SICKENING.

    • http://www.jackandmandy.com Mandy Hornbuckle

      (The fact that there were horrible comments. Not you. Just to clarify.)

  • Kaye

    Hugs…
    Kaye

  • Christy

    I don’t know what was said (nor do I need to know); however, I want you to know that I truly enjoy reading the posts on your blog. If I didn’t, I would stop reading. Thanks for being such a light for Christ.

  • MelissaD.

    Angie,

    Didn’t see the comment and thankfully you didn’t either, but it’s terrible that people have to make their bad day other peple’s problems. Sounds like you just got someone’s misery. Good for you for praying for that person. I’m off to have my quiet time since both of my kiddos are sleeping, so I think I’ll prayer for that poor soul too. Chin up!

  • Stephjt

    wow, you are continually gracious… and i, for one, am always inspired by your reaction to things like this. (take THAT mean commenter) i have no idea what this person wrote, but it was obviously incredibly inappropriate, rude and hurtful. i don’t understand why people do these things… but we all know the Lord can work some good out of these situations. i pray for this mean spirited person that they may come to know our Jesus.

    in other news… hey yeah! man, that sister wives show was cray-zay!! i think my eyeballs were continually bulged out of my head while i was watching. i’m embarrassed to say i will be tuning in “this season”. ha ha! at least i’m not the only one.

    bless you and your beautiful family!! xoxo

  • Anonymous

    My heart is truly saddened for you to be the recipient of such a bitter tirade. No mother should have to endure unwarented comments about their precious baby.

    Righteously angry on your behalf….and so blessed by your gracious “pluck” to get up and move on!

  • Bjruby6

    First off, I LOVE your blog. You are such a talented writer and such a sweet, caring person! Your story is trully amazing. You and your husband are wonderful, courageous and compassinate! Please keep writing and sharing your story as you do.

    Second…I cannot, for the life of me, understand why people who “hate” things, or don’t have the same beliefs about things or people, insist on following those said people’s blogs. (did that make any sense?) I follow another blog that had the same problem. Half the comments on that blog are negative. If you feel so negatively about something, don’t read it. DUH.

    Good for you for being such a strong, caring person to pray for them. I don’t think I could. :)
    Wishing to be more like you! :) I WILL continue to pray for you and your family however. God Bless!

  • Stephanie

    Sister in Christ,
    Way to rise above the muck of hatred! Nothing can seperate us from the love of God! There will always be hate for those that love and profess the name of Jesus. I am sorry this happened to you, but I know you’re strength and comfort, being found in the Lord, is sufficient!
    To Him be the glory -
    Stephanie

  • Jonnilin

    Very proud of you, and your ways of handling this! I love reading your blog and YES, I did see sister wives!! LOL!!!!

  • http://www.untilparadise.blogspot.com Betty

    I like you, Angie. I like you a lot. You are so encouraging and I wish we could all stand in front of you and protect you from garbage like this. I know we can’t…
    BUT
    hooray for a Victor and Savior and Father who is standing beside you, for you, with you.

  • Colleen

    Dear Angie, as a mother who has also buried a newborn baby girl, I totally agree with you. I am glad I did not read the comments because my feathers would have been ruffled too! It is horrible that someone could ever say something to a mother about her dead child! Shame on them!!!

  • Jylbean814

    LOVE, LOVE, LOVE. Being sent your way, by me, as we speak! :) <3

  • http://www.timberlaketales.blogspot.com Sharen

    You have a beautiful heart Angie! I am always inspired, encouraged and set a wonderful example by you. Prayers and love to you and your family!

  • Ellie North

    Angie, I was recently shown your blog, and its a gift. A gift to those of us who take the time to watch your life. May God continue to bless you and may Audrey look down on your in awe, because she must have been some special Angel for God to choose you! I’ll pray for you tonight.

  • Jessica B

    Just wanted to tell you that I appreciate your blog! I started reading Radical: Taking Back Your Faith from the American Dream on your suggestion, and I love it! I’m recommending it to everyone!

    God bless you and your family!

    Jessica

  • Lara

    I have to say that your choice to bring Audrey into the world was such a brave one. I know another couple who did not make the same choice, and my heart hurts for them — they will never have held their precious little one. I know that God gives us all the blessings of this life, and Audrey was a blessing in her short life and still is. Your choice has made me able to face whatever could come my way. Blessings on your family & especially those precious girls!

  • Christine

    I have been on a quest.
    A quest to help in healing a deep, deep hurt.
    The hurt of lossing a baby.
    I buy books.
    I buy books for the ministry of our church library.
    I buy books to be a balm for broken hearts.
    I have purchased many books on this topic in my quest.
    I believe my quest became complete, when I purchased (and read) your book about this sacred dance of joy and grief.
    This book of your journey has made it into the hands and hearts of readers and sisters in the Lord in Canada.
    May God’s grace and abiding love be shown clearly to the broken hearted.

  • Kim

    Angie –
    Thank you for sharing your life with us on this blog. You minister to so many hearts and we as your readers with we could protect your heart from hurtful words.
    Praying for your dad, too.
    Love,
    Kim

  • Melody

    It’s been a rough day all around. Today I dealt with full grown adults acting worse than I would ever expect from my two year old. I just don’t know why people feel like they can act like this sometimes.

    It’s funny how your blog seems to be talking right to me sometimes. God knows what I need to hear and puts it in a nice little package that you deliver to me.

    Anyway, I know you know all this already but I want to say it too. You did everything right with your pregnancy. Audrey’s life was good. She was safe and warm and loved while she was here. She got to listen to you talk and sing and everything she could possibly want while she was with you. I am 100% sure the whole experience was harder for you guys than it was for her. I don’t know what those people said but I know they are wrong. Passing away peacefully just simply has to be better than the alternative. For real. I made the terrible mistake of looking up what actually goes on during an abortion and it was awful. Even the least awful ones were awful. If anyone every suggests you made the wrong choice, just take comfort in knowing that they are utterly clueless and you know you did the right thing.

  • Melody

    It’s been a rough day all around. Today I dealt with full grown adults acting worse than I would ever expect from my two year old. I just don’t know why people feel like they can act like this sometimes.

    It’s funny how your blog seems to be talking right to me sometimes. God knows what I need to hear and puts it in a nice little package that you deliver to me.

    Anyway, I know you know all this already but I want to say it too. You did everything right with your pregnancy. Audrey’s life was good. She was safe and warm and loved while she was here. She got to listen to you talk and sing and everything she could possibly want while she was with you. I am 100% sure the whole experience was harder for you guys than it was for her. I don’t know what those people said but I know they are wrong. Passing away peacefully just simply has to be better than the alternative. For real. I made the terrible mistake of looking up what actually goes on during an abortion and it was awful. Even the least awful ones were awful. If anyone every suggests you made the wrong choice, just take comfort in knowing that they are utterly clueless and you know you did the right thing.

  • Nileteacher

    Didn’t see the comments…and really glad I didn’t. As a mom of a heavenly daughter that plays with Audrey – I’m sure – I couldn’t agree more. How hateful! I am so sorry that this happened and I am so glad you addressed it the way you did. Good for you – even though our babies aren’t here, they’re still our children and deserve to be respected as such. You go, Angie!

    Erica
    http://www.thelargentlife.blogspot.com

  • Nileteacher

    Didn’t see the comments…and really glad I didn’t. As a mom of a heavenly daughter that plays with Audrey – I’m sure – I couldn’t agree more. How hateful! I am so sorry that this happened and I am so glad you addressed it the way you did. Good for you – even though our babies aren’t here, they’re still our children and deserve to be respected as such. You go, Angie!

    Erica
    http://www.thelargentlife.blogspot.com

  • Destiny

    I have no idea about what you are referring to, and I’m glad.

    I’m glad and I’m sorry! Sorry for you and your family — for the hurt that it must have caused; very, very sorry. I like you and I love your Jesus!

    Your blog blesses me beyond measure in my heart and mind and your husband’s music blesses me beyond measure in my home and car. Know that and find comfort in the truth of that today.

    Destiny

  • Destiny

    I have no idea about what you are referring to, and I’m glad.

    I’m glad and I’m sorry! Sorry for you and your family — for the hurt that it must have caused; very, very sorry. I like you and I love your Jesus!

    Your blog blesses me beyond measure in my heart and mind and your husband’s music blesses me beyond measure in my home and car. Know that and find comfort in the truth of that today.

    Destiny

  • Toni :O)

    How awful, awful some people can be! I’m so sorry for the pain you and your family suffered at the hands of some mean-spirited person. I love your family and admire your strength and courage and wish nothing but happier comments be directed your way. I’m glad I didn’t see the comments either, I would have been furious. However, you are the much bigger and stronger person for posting what you did. I appreciate your blog and what you share and I’ll continue to pray for you and your family as well. Hang in there because you are a shining star in the midst of dullness! :O)

  • Toni :O)

    How awful, awful some people can be! I’m so sorry for the pain you and your family suffered at the hands of some mean-spirited person. I love your family and admire your strength and courage and wish nothing but happier comments be directed your way. I’m glad I didn’t see the comments either, I would have been furious. However, you are the much bigger and stronger person for posting what you did. I appreciate your blog and what you share and I’ll continue to pray for you and your family as well. Hang in there because you are a shining star in the midst of dullness! :O)

  • http://twitter.com/bucknerfamily bucknerfamily

    I don’t know why I am always shocked by people’s stupidity, but I am. Didn’t their mamma’s teach them if they don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all? I never understand the bashing and the cruelness that some people thrive on.

    Way to go to publicly address it. Praying for yall!

    paige

  • http://twitter.com/bucknerfamily bucknerfamily

    I don’t know why I am always shocked by people’s stupidity, but I am. Didn’t their mamma’s teach them if they don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all? I never understand the bashing and the cruelness that some people thrive on.

    Way to go to publicly address it. Praying for yall!

    paige

  • Anonymous

    I”m so sorry this happened to you! Some people’s insensitivity can be unbelievable at times…but by reacting with grace as you are, you are heaping those coals and hopefully God can use this to change the heart of the person who said those cruel words.

    Lisa

  • Anonymous

    I”m so sorry this happened to you! Some people’s insensitivity can be unbelievable at times…but by reacting with grace as you are, you are heaping those coals and hopefully God can use this to change the heart of the person who said those cruel words.

    Lisa

  • Andigirl79
    • http://www.elisvalley-perfectlove.blogspot.com Jennifer

      How did you do that?

    • http://www.elisvalley-perfectlove.blogspot.com Jennifer

      How did you do that?

    • Imthankfullyhis
    • Imthankfullyhis
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  • KenneyMommy

    Hey Angie! I am new to your blog. I found it about 2-3 months ago, and have been able to go through some healing because of just how transparent you have been in your blog. I am not very schooled on blogging, so I have only been reading and either crying, praying or laughing with you. I just noticed the comment section tonight! LOL! I would love to be able to correspond with you more, and relay my situation and how the Lord has helped me through, and is still helping me through some very dark days in one of my little precious babies lives. I feel blessed to have came across your blog(by acciedent). Thank-you again for sharing your TESTimony. And is it EVER a TEST sometimes! LOL! Especially when some heartless individual says cutting things like the one you have dealt with the last few days. I can send you my email if you would like to correspond.
    Thank-you again! :)
    Kimberly

  • KenneyMommy

    Hey Angie! I am new to your blog. I found it about 2-3 months ago, and have been able to go through some healing because of just how transparent you have been in your blog. I am not very schooled on blogging, so I have only been reading and either crying, praying or laughing with you. I just noticed the comment section tonight! LOL! I would love to be able to correspond with you more, and relay my situation and how the Lord has helped me through, and is still helping me through some very dark days in one of my little precious babies lives. I feel blessed to have came across your blog(by acciedent). Thank-you again for sharing your TESTimony. And is it EVER a TEST sometimes! LOL! Especially when some heartless individual says cutting things like the one you have dealt with the last few days. I can send you my email if you would like to correspond.
    Thank-you again! :)
    Kimberly

  • http://hisplanforpaisly.blogspot.com/ Drharre-Ryan Davenport

    ANGIE!!! I hate to hear things like that! I don’t know how people can be so rude! on a better note…. I GET TO HEAR YOU SPEAK FRIDAY NIGHT :) I’m so very extremely excited! I loved your book and reading your blog, it has helped me through the loss of my daughter so I can’t wait to hear you in person!!! see you then :D

  • http://hisplanforpaisly.blogspot.com/ Drharre-Ryan Davenport

    ANGIE!!! I hate to hear things like that! I don’t know how people can be so rude! on a better note…. I GET TO HEAR YOU SPEAK FRIDAY NIGHT :) I’m so very extremely excited! I loved your book and reading your blog, it has helped me through the loss of my daughter so I can’t wait to hear you in person!!! see you then :D

  • KenneyMommy

    OH, By the way, All of your babies are PRECIOUS! Satan would love to destort the beautiful images that you have by someone that is clueless, and full of the wrong spirit! God doesn’t live in them, and that would be the only way that they could spew there filth.
    When people talk trash like that, I like to say that they are ‘foaming at the mouth’…..you know, like a dog does! LOL! And when I say that, I laugh and just go on realizing that yes, they sure are soooooo sick, I do not need to hear or be around it! I don’t want what any part of what they have!
    I thought you may like that! :)

  • KenneyMommy

    OH, By the way, All of your babies are PRECIOUS! Satan would love to destort the beautiful images that you have by someone that is clueless, and full of the wrong spirit! God doesn’t live in them, and that would be the only way that they could spew there filth.
    When people talk trash like that, I like to say that they are ‘foaming at the mouth’…..you know, like a dog does! LOL! And when I say that, I laugh and just go on realizing that yes, they sure are soooooo sick, I do not need to hear or be around it! I don’t want what any part of what they have!
    I thought you may like that! :)

  • Lizreeves2

    Oh girl, I’m so glad those posts got deleted before I saw them. I would’ve wanted to kick some commenter’s tail! LOL! Bravo for handling it this way!!!

  • Lizreeves2

    Oh girl, I’m so glad those posts got deleted before I saw them. I would’ve wanted to kick some commenter’s tail! LOL! Bravo for handling it this way!!!

  • http://wwwfeedingmysoul.blogspot.com deb mills

    i just found your blog a couple weeks ago. as i read back through the posts, i found myself thinking “she has a wonderful way of writing…she should write a book.”
    and then i saw……oh, she did. : )
    can’t wait to read it.
    and in regards to the ignorant comments…i have the following statement posted by my crafting desk: Live your life in such a way that when your feet hit the floor each morning, Satan shudders and says, “Oh s#*$….she’s awake!!”
    thanks for your part in making his life miserable! your blog is truly wonderful.

  • http://wwwfeedingmysoul.blogspot.com deb mills

    i just found your blog a couple weeks ago. as i read back through the posts, i found myself thinking “she has a wonderful way of writing…she should write a book.”
    and then i saw……oh, she did. : )
    can’t wait to read it.
    and in regards to the ignorant comments…i have the following statement posted by my crafting desk: Live your life in such a way that when your feet hit the floor each morning, Satan shudders and says, “Oh s#*$….she’s awake!!”
    thanks for your part in making his life miserable! your blog is truly wonderful.

  • http://mommydaddymason.blogspot.com crystalschultz

    Just seeing this post makes my mommy claws start to itch, but you truly handled this so gracefully. I LOVE your writing and transparency. Please don’t ever let anyone’s jealous words take that from you!

  • http://mommydaddymason.blogspot.com crystalschultz

    Just seeing this post makes my mommy claws start to itch, but you truly handled this so gracefully. I LOVE your writing and transparency. Please don’t ever let anyone’s jealous words take that from you!

  • Spring

    i was in awe of you and your husband when I first heard about your journey with Audrey about a year ago. (through focus on the Family) Finding your blog was just a blessing to me as I am sure it is to so many others. Thank you for being frank, honest and loving.

    When I realized you are a homeschool mom I just decided to make you my hero ;) I’ve just started on the homeschool journey and am overwhelmed..thank you for making me feel normal!

  • Spring

    i was in awe of you and your husband when I first heard about your journey with Audrey about a year ago. (through focus on the Family) Finding your blog was just a blessing to me as I am sure it is to so many others. Thank you for being frank, honest and loving.

    When I realized you are a homeschool mom I just decided to make you my hero ;) I’ve just started on the homeschool journey and am overwhelmed..thank you for making me feel normal!

  • http://twitter.com/adandjen Jen Holzer

    Angie~
    I enjoy reading your blog so much. I keep posted on your new blogs and I look forward to that time, when I get to read “Bring the Rain”. Your steadfast faith has been such an encouragement to me, both your faith and Todd’s. Your testimony brought tears to my eyes, yet I rejoice for what God has done in your life.
    Many blessings~
    Jen

  • http://twitter.com/adandjen Jen Holzer

    Angie~
    I enjoy reading your blog so much. I keep posted on your new blogs and I look forward to that time, when I get to read “Bring the Rain”. Your steadfast faith has been such an encouragement to me, both your faith and Todd’s. Your testimony brought tears to my eyes, yet I rejoice for what God has done in your life.
    Many blessings~
    Jen

  • Joy

    This makes my heart hurt; no child, whether alive or dead, should be the victim of verbal abuse. It is really hard to not say something really hateful. And as her mother you have the right to defend her. The Bible commands us to defend the weak so it is in your right, especially as her mother, to stand up.

  • Joy

    This makes my heart hurt; no child, whether alive or dead, should be the victim of verbal abuse. It is really hard to not say something really hateful. And as her mother you have the right to defend her. The Bible commands us to defend the weak so it is in your right, especially as her mother, to stand up.

  • kayasmom

    we love you angie

  • kayasmom

    we love you angie

  • Virginia

    Thank you for your honestly Angie. I appreciate you being so vulnerable in such a public way. It is truly amazing to see what God has done (and continues to do) through you and Todd and the journey you’ve gone through.

    I will pray that your father will not continue to be upset by the things he read.

    May God continue to bless you! Big hugs sista :)

  • Virginia

    Thank you for your honestly Angie. I appreciate you being so vulnerable in such a public way. It is truly amazing to see what God has done (and continues to do) through you and Todd and the journey you’ve gone through.

    I will pray that your father will not continue to be upset by the things he read.

    May God continue to bless you! Big hugs sista :)

  • Katy

    Dear Angie, I have been reading your blog for about a year and a half and I’m always a little disappointed when there isn’t a new post. (Although this is a post I wish you hadn’t had to write.) I’m as opposite from you as possible. I don’t share your faith, but I do share a faith in a humane and loving God. I love the way you write because you are so strong in your beliefs and you walk the talk. And you also have a terrific sense of humor.

    On some days, you lift me up and on others, you just remind me that there are always less fortunate people who need our help. In my religion, we call it Tikun Olam – repairing the broken pieces in the world.

    Please don’t let some person with bitterness in their soul stop you from doing what you do. I think you must be a wonderful person, a loving wife and mother. I feel as if you are a friend even though we’ve never met. I’m sure there are others like me who are inspired to try to be better because we “know” you.

  • Katy

    Dear Angie, I have been reading your blog for about a year and a half and I’m always a little disappointed when there isn’t a new post. (Although this is a post I wish you hadn’t had to write.) I’m as opposite from you as possible. I don’t share your faith, but I do share a faith in a humane and loving God. I love the way you write because you are so strong in your beliefs and you walk the talk. And you also have a terrific sense of humor.

    On some days, you lift me up and on others, you just remind me that there are always less fortunate people who need our help. In my religion, we call it Tikun Olam – repairing the broken pieces in the world.

    Please don’t let some person with bitterness in their soul stop you from doing what you do. I think you must be a wonderful person, a loving wife and mother. I feel as if you are a friend even though we’ve never met. I’m sure there are others like me who are inspired to try to be better because we “know” you.

  • Julie

    Dear Angie,
    A year ago in November you took the time to encourage a complete stranger by writing on her blog when she lost her baby boy to a fatal chromosomal disorder. She chose to carry him for as long as God would allow, which was 28 weeks. That young mother was my oldest daughter. I will never forget how touched we were that you would take the time out of YOUR busy schedule to care for her (and consequently all of us-we were in such pain). I hope that you will feel the love and encouragement from so many today who have been touched by your story, and who, through it, have been shown the love of the faithful Father who carried you.

  • Julie

    Dear Angie,
    A year ago in November you took the time to encourage a complete stranger by writing on her blog when she lost her baby boy to a fatal chromosomal disorder. She chose to carry him for as long as God would allow, which was 28 weeks. That young mother was my oldest daughter. I will never forget how touched we were that you would take the time out of YOUR busy schedule to care for her (and consequently all of us-we were in such pain). I hope that you will feel the love and encouragement from so many today who have been touched by your story, and who, through it, have been shown the love of the faithful Father who carried you.

  • http://sufficientgrace-kelly.blogspot.com Kelly_SufficientGrace

    Angie,

    Thank you for addressing this with such grace. I did not see the comments, but it breaks my heart to hear that such ugliness was spoken about your sweet Audrey. I have read about other grieving mothers receiving hurtful comments on their blogs, and I am always shocked that anyone would feel the need to do such a thing. The hurt in their own heart…or anger…or whatever drives such a reaction must be great. I am praying with you for this person…and praying for you, as you continue to stand beautifully and boldly for the Lord…and as you continue to honor the life of sweet Audrey.

    Also…praying for you as you prepare for the Relevant Blogger Conference coming up…I sooooo wish I could come! Would love to meet you. Maybe someday!!

    Love to you…

  • http://sufficientgrace-kelly.blogspot.com Kelly_SufficientGrace

    Angie,

    Thank you for addressing this with such grace. I did not see the comments, but it breaks my heart to hear that such ugliness was spoken about your sweet Audrey. I have read about other grieving mothers receiving hurtful comments on their blogs, and I am always shocked that anyone would feel the need to do such a thing. The hurt in their own heart…or anger…or whatever drives such a reaction must be great. I am praying with you for this person…and praying for you, as you continue to stand beautifully and boldly for the Lord…and as you continue to honor the life of sweet Audrey.

    Also…praying for you as you prepare for the Relevant Blogger Conference coming up…I sooooo wish I could come! Would love to meet you. Maybe someday!!

    Love to you…

  • flores

    Hi, Angie I love reading your blog and thought you handled that really well. I enjoy looking at your pics of your beautiful girls and want to say thank you for showing us that there is a way to handle things without being ugly when people hurt us with words.

  • flores

    Hi, Angie I love reading your blog and thought you handled that really well. I enjoy looking at your pics of your beautiful girls and want to say thank you for showing us that there is a way to handle things without being ugly when people hurt us with words.

  • Andrea

    Wow, you handled that really well!

    I started reading your blog a couple of months ago after my husband checked out a Selah album from the library and found “Audrey’s Song”. I sat crying as I read your story, remembering my own story.

    My husband and I lost our five-month-old daughter to Trisomy 18 in April, 2000. Your song touched my heart, as it reminded me of everything we went through – the diagnosis, our choice to “keep her”, and each day of the five months we were blessed to have her with us.

    I’ve been reading every time you post a new post, and came back a couple of days ago and found some of those comments you’re talking about. I didn’t say anything, as I knew acknowledging it would probably make it worse – but it was a sad reminder of the first time someone left a comment like that on my daughter’s site. I was mortified and heartbroken, not only that someone would write something hateful like that, but that all our readers, the ones who’d followed our story since the beginning also had to read it. It was then that I started moderating comments. I still saw the ugly ones, but at least no one else did.

    You did the right thing. We spent our daughters’ lives protecting them, and we will continue to do so in death.

    p.s. – Your daughters are BEAUTIFUL!

  • Andrea

    Wow, you handled that really well!

    I started reading your blog a couple of months ago after my husband checked out a Selah album from the library and found “Audrey’s Song”. I sat crying as I read your story, remembering my own story.

    My husband and I lost our five-month-old daughter to Trisomy 18 in April, 2000. Your song touched my heart, as it reminded me of everything we went through – the diagnosis, our choice to “keep her”, and each day of the five months we were blessed to have her with us.

    I’ve been reading every time you post a new post, and came back a couple of days ago and found some of those comments you’re talking about. I didn’t say anything, as I knew acknowledging it would probably make it worse – but it was a sad reminder of the first time someone left a comment like that on my daughter’s site. I was mortified and heartbroken, not only that someone would write something hateful like that, but that all our readers, the ones who’d followed our story since the beginning also had to read it. It was then that I started moderating comments. I still saw the ugly ones, but at least no one else did.

    You did the right thing. We spent our daughters’ lives protecting them, and we will continue to do so in death.

    p.s. – Your daughters are BEAUTIFUL!

  • Beckycain6

    Press on, Ang. God is in control. Period. He is IN CONTROL.

  • Beckycain6

    Press on, Ang. God is in control. Period. He is IN CONTROL.

  • Kbabler276

    Well spoken! Love your blog!!

  • Kbabler276

    Well spoken! Love your blog!!

  • Kbabler276

    Just want to add I was given your book by a co-worker and friend when we found out on our 20wk u/s that our 4th child wasn’t going to survive. Your book-which had only been out for a few months- gave us guidance on how to make a terrible sad situation and try to make the best of it…..There is no full way to prepare to lose your precious baby but we were blessed have your book to shed some light in the deep darkness and sadness. Thank you, for all your open sharing and encouragement! Looking forward to seeing Selah this Nov. for the 1st time!!

  • Kbabler276

    Just want to add I was given your book by a co-worker and friend when we found out on our 20wk u/s that our 4th child wasn’t going to survive. Your book-which had only been out for a few months- gave us guidance on how to make a terrible sad situation and try to make the best of it…..There is no full way to prepare to lose your precious baby but we were blessed have your book to shed some light in the deep darkness and sadness. Thank you, for all your open sharing and encouragement! Looking forward to seeing Selah this Nov. for the 1st time!!

  • Bbmason73

    Firstly, God bless you for taking a very normal and God-given “Momma” stand concerning your baby and babies! Secondly, give your sweet Daddy a hug from a mom/grandmom who understands completely where he is coming from. The hardest thing we have ever dealt with was the loss of our sweet grandbaby last year. To say ugly things concerning that event would have caused me a sleepless night, too! God was gracious and has brought us another baby this year!

    Now go love on those girls (and Todd)!!! God bless!

  • Bbmason73

    Firstly, God bless you for taking a very normal and God-given “Momma” stand concerning your baby and babies! Secondly, give your sweet Daddy a hug from a mom/grandmom who understands completely where he is coming from. The hardest thing we have ever dealt with was the loss of our sweet grandbaby last year. To say ugly things concerning that event would have caused me a sleepless night, too! God was gracious and has brought us another baby this year!

    Now go love on those girls (and Todd)!!! God bless!

  • Jackiel

    Angie;
    What a lady of such grace and faith. As a Mother/Nana I can understand how you would want to protect your children which you did so eloqently and without malice. The hardest thing I have ever had to deal with was watching our Daughter lose her 6 month pregnancy under horrific conditions. We are going to be blessed with a new bundle of love in Dec. God is good. Love your blog, your wisdom, and beautiful children.

  • Jackiel

    Angie;
    What a lady of such grace and faith. As a Mother/Nana I can understand how you would want to protect your children which you did so eloqently and without malice. The hardest thing I have ever had to deal with was watching our Daughter lose her 6 month pregnancy under horrific conditions. We are going to be blessed with a new bundle of love in Dec. God is good. Love your blog, your wisdom, and beautiful children.

  • Connie L Amato-Mahle

    Angie,

    Your ability to maintain your composure states so much about your character. You have a genuine, kind and peaceful spirit – so many adore that about you (myself included)!

    Kudos to you, girl!!

    Love loves all things, and you my dearie, are an exceptional example!

    Peaceful evening wishes!

    Much love,
    Connie Amato-Mahle
    Clarion, PA

  • Connie L Amato-Mahle

    Angie,

    Your ability to maintain your composure states so much about your character. You have a genuine, kind and peaceful spirit – so many adore that about you (myself included)!

    Kudos to you, girl!!

    Love loves all things, and you my dearie, are an exceptional example!

    Peaceful evening wishes!

    Much love,
    Connie Amato-Mahle
    Clarion, PA

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_N66ZTZ3VU43ILPF7CGZYW3JALA Traci L

    Wow, seriously? Wow, wow, wow. I think you handled it awesome. Thanks for sharing.

    Love, Traci http://www.ordinaryinspirations.blogspot.com

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_N66ZTZ3VU43ILPF7CGZYW3JALA Traci L

    Wow, seriously? Wow, wow, wow. I think you handled it awesome. Thanks for sharing.

    Love, Traci http://www.ordinaryinspirations.blogspot.com

  • Brandi

    I am so sorry that even when we try to surround ourselves with GODLY people, ungodly people get in the way. May you continue to be a good example to the rest of us. :~)

    Brandi

  • Brandi

    I am so sorry that even when we try to surround ourselves with GODLY people, ungodly people get in the way. May you continue to be a good example to the rest of us. :~)

    Brandi

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Allison-Stephens/580170320 Allison Stephens

    Angie to say I respect you is a massive understatement. The way you handle yourself is so Christ-like, so upstanding I wish EVERYONE handled issues in this manner. Thank you! Oh and I will desperately praying for someone that would stoop to such a horrendous level.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Allison-Stephens/580170320 Allison Stephens

    Angie to say I respect you is a massive understatement. The way you handle yourself is so Christ-like, so upstanding I wish EVERYONE handled issues in this manner. Thank you! Oh and I will desperately praying for someone that would stoop to such a horrendous level.

  • Carolelliott2007

    I am so sorry that happened! I will follow our example and pray for that poor soul!

  • Carolelliott2007

    I am so sorry that happened! I will follow our example and pray for that poor soul!

  • http://www.joshandtamara.blogspot.com Tamara

    I am so sorry that someone would ever do that. Wow.

  • http://twitter.com/queenoftheclick Queen of the Click

    So sorry to hear that happened and that your Dad had to read it as well.

    Audrey was and is a blessing from God. I’ll be praying for the person who forgot who they were.

  • http://twitter.com/queenoftheclick Queen of the Click

    So sorry to hear that happened and that your Dad had to read it as well.

    Audrey was and is a blessing from God. I’ll be praying for the person who forgot who they were.

  • http://thepartythatneverquits.blogspot.com Jen

    I love you much. And hold you and your beautiful precious Audrey Blossom in my heart. But you know that. Don’t forget I’m always here to say the bad words for you ;)

  • http://thepartythatneverquits.blogspot.com Jen

    I love you much. And hold you and your beautiful precious Audrey Blossom in my heart. But you know that. Don’t forget I’m always here to say the bad words for you ;)

  • Boulanger Ab

    Whew . . . glad you got that out there. Now you can focus on the positive people. I do however always wonder what has happened to those people who are so negative. I hope they also find peace . . .

  • http://www.nosfe.com Nickie

    I can’t even imagine…

    I have been reading your blog for a few weeks, and I can’t even tell you how much I have learned from you. Every single time I read, I ‘walk’ away with a blessing I can feel. YOU are such a wonderful example of the Christian I strive to be. I would find it very hard to pray for that person as well– in fact, I have found it hard to pray for the ones who persecute me in my offline life. But through your example; that of a few other wonderful ladies I read; my church family, and most importantly, the Holy Spirit, it is slowly becoming easier.

    I love you dear sister, and I am thankful that God is using you in such a way.

  • http://twitter.com/ceciliamae Cecilia Long

    Unfortunately there have been several rude things said to baby loss moms I read and it makes me so sad. I am uber protective of Ethan as I’m sure you are of Audrey. I’m so sorry this happened.

  • http://twitter.com/ceciliamae Cecilia Long

    Unfortunately there have been several rude things said to baby loss moms I read and it makes me so sad. I am uber protective of Ethan as I’m sure you are of Audrey. I’m so sorry this happened.

  • Stephany

    Just got to share your story with a lady at a boutique shop today. The song Bring the Rain was playing so I asked the clerk if she had heard of you. Was able to tell of God’s amazing strength & grace. I so appreciate your testimony. When I first read your whole story I cried all the way through. It took me a couple of hours to read it all but I could not pry myself from the computer. The longer I sat the larger the mountain of tissues grew beside me. :) Thanks again for sharing & giving God the glory!! Audrey’s life made a very big impact on the world.

  • Stephany

    Just got to share your story with a lady at a boutique shop today. The song Bring the Rain was playing so I asked the clerk if she had heard of you. Was able to tell of God’s amazing strength & grace. I so appreciate your testimony. When I first read your whole story I cried all the way through. It took me a couple of hours to read it all but I could not pry myself from the computer. The longer I sat the larger the mountain of tissues grew beside me. :) Thanks again for sharing & giving God the glory!! Audrey’s life made a very big impact on the world.

  • L2L

    And I bet you will be on your knees for this person, or have you already done that!! How they came here to do evil but will be greatly blessed by the prayers that will go out for them. God has really been showing me how I need to pray for those who do me harm and evil and in my prayers I am able to turn what they meant for evil to good and God’s glory. How thankful that the Lord’s protection was over your eyes and he has sheltered your heart from her hurtful words!!!!

  • L2L

    And I bet you will be on your knees for this person, or have you already done that!! How they came here to do evil but will be greatly blessed by the prayers that will go out for them. God has really been showing me how I need to pray for those who do me harm and evil and in my prayers I am able to turn what they meant for evil to good and God’s glory. How thankful that the Lord’s protection was over your eyes and he has sheltered your heart from her hurtful words!!!!

  • Kikizulu

    The person or persons that said RUDE THINGS WILL HAVE TO ANSWER TO OUR GOD!!! THEY ARE SAYING THINGS THAT THEY WILL BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR. THEY WILL ALSO BE JUGDED FOR WHAT THEY WHAT AND EVEN THOUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THEY NEED TO LEAVE INNOCENT CHILDREN ALONE!!!!!!!!!!

  • Kikizulu

    The person or persons that said RUDE THINGS WILL HAVE TO ANSWER TO OUR GOD!!! THEY ARE SAYING THINGS THAT THEY WILL BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR. THEY WILL ALSO BE JUGDED FOR WHAT THEY WHAT AND EVEN THOUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THEY NEED TO LEAVE INNOCENT CHILDREN ALONE!!!!!!!!!!

  • Kikizulu

    Even The Unsaid Words WILL ALSO BE ACOUNTABLE FOR AND JUDGED. PLEASE LEAVE INNOCENT CHILDREN ALONE!!!!!!!!! YOU ALL OR PERSONS WILL BE PUNISHED AND EVERY WORD WILL BE ACCOUNTABLE EVEN UNSAID WORDS TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Kikizulu

    Even The Unsaid Words WILL ALSO BE ACOUNTABLE FOR AND JUDGED. PLEASE LEAVE INNOCENT CHILDREN ALONE!!!!!!!!! YOU ALL OR PERSONS WILL BE PUNISHED AND EVERY WORD WILL BE ACCOUNTABLE EVEN UNSAID WORDS TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Liz

    I continue to admire your grace under pressure, Angie. You are a perfect example of the love we imperfect Christians can show for each other.

  • Elaine

    You were in Colorado Springs again and I missed you. BUMMER!

  • http://glutenfreeathens.blogspot.com Jessica

    Angie- I admire how you and your husband coped with Audrey’s situation. Your story and advice helped me help my friend who lost her angel after he spent 3 months in the PICU. People hide behind their keyboard and I am glad you recognize that! Your family told your story a few weeks after I started attending our church and the fact that the church was so behind you made me realize it was the place for me. Hope you are enjoying every minute with Charlotte- she was so precious when I was able to meet her. Thanks for all you do!

  • http://glutenfreeathens.blogspot.com Jessica

    Angie- I admire how you and your husband coped with Audrey’s situation. Your story and advice helped me help my friend who lost her angel after he spent 3 months in the PICU. People hide behind their keyboard and I am glad you recognize that! Your family told your story a few weeks after I started attending our church and the fact that the church was so behind you made me realize it was the place for me. Hope you are enjoying every minute with Charlotte- she was so precious when I was able to meet her. Thanks for all you do!

  • http://whatilearnedfromthewordtoday.blogspot.com Jes

    Angie,

    You are so precious. So very, very precious!

    It’s a great joy to sit and watch how God is using your life and growing you in Him…yet giving all of us who love you the gift of growing with you!

    I had to deal with this very thing on my blog, and suffice it to say that the ridiculousness was being perpetrated by someone very close to me.

    My dear friend had just pointed me to a blog post of Beth Moore’s, and her bravery (like yours) gave me the courage to do what I needed to on my blog.

    Should you want to, you can read it here:
    http://whatilearnedfromthewordtoday.blogspot.com/2010/07/on-providential-blog-posts-and-how-im.html

    Now I gotta get off of here and pray for you and Todd and your time at Focus today!

    We love you, and thank God for you!
    Jes in Chattanooga

  • http://whatilearnedfromthewordtoday.blogspot.com Jes

    Angie,

    You are so precious. So very, very precious!

    It’s a great joy to sit and watch how God is using your life and growing you in Him…yet giving all of us who love you the gift of growing with you!

    I had to deal with this very thing on my blog, and suffice it to say that the ridiculousness was being perpetrated by someone very close to me.

    My dear friend had just pointed me to a blog post of Beth Moore’s, and her bravery (like yours) gave me the courage to do what I needed to on my blog.

    Should you want to, you can read it here:
    http://whatilearnedfromthewordtoday.blogspot.com/2010/07/on-providential-blog-posts-and-how-im.html

    Now I gotta get off of here and pray for you and Todd and your time at Focus today!

    We love you, and thank God for you!
    Jes in Chattanooga

  • Monkeevillegrl19

    Angie,
    I’m behind you 1000,000,000,000 % on this. You are such a sweet and charming young Lady. You have a wonderful Husband and Children and friends who love you dearly. And , rhat includes ME!. your someone who Loves the Lord like we all should do. I can’t believe a TOTAL STRANGER would post such “CRUD” about your “Beautiful Audrey Angel” . Some people are just PLAN OLE MEAN!!!!! Just KEEP your chin up. Because , like I said earlier, I love ya too. Love , Randee

  • Monkeevillegrl19

    Angie,
    I’m behind you 1000,000,000,000 % on this. You are such a sweet and charming young Lady. You have a wonderful Husband and Children and friends who love you dearly. And , rhat includes ME!. your someone who Loves the Lord like we all should do. I can’t believe a TOTAL STRANGER would post such “CRUD” about your “Beautiful Audrey Angel” . Some people are just PLAN OLE MEAN!!!!! Just KEEP your chin up. Because , like I said earlier, I love ya too. Love , Randee

  • Kristen

    It’s amazing what some people will say, isn’t it? I’m so sorry that happened. What a hurtful thing. I will pray for you and your father as you work to extend forgiveness, undeserved though it may be.

  • Kristen

    It’s amazing what some people will say, isn’t it? I’m so sorry that happened. What a hurtful thing. I will pray for you and your father as you work to extend forgiveness, undeserved though it may be.

  • http://julesmpg.blogspot.com Julesmpg

    Wow, I am very sad to hear this. But not suprised, the more Glory God gets the bigger the target. I know you are geniune and down to earth.

  • http://julesmpg.blogspot.com Julesmpg

    Wow, I am very sad to hear this. But not suprised, the more Glory God gets the bigger the target. I know you are geniune and down to earth.

  • Ashley

    I know you didn’t want any comments regarding this…
    but SHAME on whomever it was for attacking your sweet babe. Makes my eyes tear up to think of the hurt that it caused your family. Shame on them.

    Love your blog. It’s such an encouragement. Keep on keeping on sister in Christ!!!

  • Ashley

    I know you didn’t want any comments regarding this…
    but SHAME on whomever it was for attacking your sweet babe. Makes my eyes tear up to think of the hurt that it caused your family. Shame on them.

    Love your blog. It’s such an encouragement. Keep on keeping on sister in Christ!!!

  • Susan

    Aren’t you excited that you have made the devil mad? He considers you a real threat–how awesome!!! 1 John 4:4

  • Susan

    Aren’t you excited that you have made the devil mad? He considers you a real threat–how awesome!!! 1 John 4:4

  • Kelly

    My daughter, who is 23 and 8 weeks into her first job as a school teacher, said to me yesterday “I’m always going to be a target…because of my faith”. I said yes, and isn’t that a great reason to be a target? Same to you Angie. I have printed out many of your blog posts to put in my purse or Bible to help me through some tough, tough times. Keep up the good work!

  • Kelly

    My daughter, who is 23 and 8 weeks into her first job as a school teacher, said to me yesterday “I’m always going to be a target…because of my faith”. I said yes, and isn’t that a great reason to be a target? Same to you Angie. I have printed out many of your blog posts to put in my purse or Bible to help me through some tough, tough times. Keep up the good work!

  • RaD

    Okay so I realize that in blogland there are a lot of haters out there trying to destroy people’s blogs and all, but really, is there like an increase this week? This is like the third really malicious one I’ve heard of lately and they seem to be trying to out do each other.

    I just popped in from another blog, and I do not believe I’ve been here before, but can I say I agree whole-heartedly with how you are handling this.

  • RaD

    Okay so I realize that in blogland there are a lot of haters out there trying to destroy people’s blogs and all, but really, is there like an increase this week? This is like the third really malicious one I’ve heard of lately and they seem to be trying to out do each other.

    I just popped in from another blog, and I do not believe I’ve been here before, but can I say I agree whole-heartedly with how you are handling this.

  • http://cassidyjoy.blogspot.com/ Gretchen

    How did I miss that you were going to be at Focus? I totally would have stopped by to say hi! And (((hugs))) some people are just too nasty for words.

  • http://cassidyjoy.blogspot.com/ Gretchen

    How did I miss that you were going to be at Focus? I totally would have stopped by to say hi! And (((hugs))) some people are just too nasty for words.

  • Katie

    You are an inspiration and a voice for all of us who have lost a child. Press on, Angie! God is doing great things through you and He will be glorified! -Katie

  • Katie

    You are an inspiration and a voice for all of us who have lost a child. Press on, Angie! God is doing great things through you and He will be glorified! -Katie

  • musiccitymama

    I don’t know what was said and am glad I don’t; however, I will pray for the person who said ugly things as well as for you because I am sure your heart aches over this.

  • musiccitymama

    I don’t know what was said and am glad I don’t; however, I will pray for the person who said ugly things as well as for you because I am sure your heart aches over this.

  • Momofboys

    God is using you greatly as you make yourself open and vurnerable to a world that sometimes is very negative and just plain nasty. I pray that God touches those who made those comments and brings them to a saving knowledge of Jesus. Thank you for sharing your heart publicly. I was led to your blog through my cousin and I have shared your story several times to encourage others so thank you for being a wonderful vessel of God’s grace.

  • Momofboys

    God is using you greatly as you make yourself open and vurnerable to a world that sometimes is very negative and just plain nasty. I pray that God touches those who made those comments and brings them to a saving knowledge of Jesus. Thank you for sharing your heart publicly. I was led to your blog through my cousin and I have shared your story several times to encourage others so thank you for being a wonderful vessel of God’s grace.

  • Hannah

    So sorry to hear about that…

  • Hannah

    So sorry to hear about that…

  • http://www.sewmanymamas.com Katie @ Sew Many Mamas

    The internet can sometimes be used as a vehicle for tearing other down. It can also be used as a powerful tool to encourage and support each other!

    We’re trying to create an encouraging space for women because of this exact thing at our blog: http://www.sewmanymamas.com. Each Monday, we’re featuring a different woman on our Meet-A-Mama Mondays. We’d love for women to nominate a friend (or themselves) who need a little reminder that she was created in His image, she has gifts to share with the world, and, in general, get a little encouragement. Check out our tab: Know A Mama to learn more. Hope to see many of you on Monday! (or meet you soon!)

  • http://www.sewmanymamas.com Katie @ Sew Many Mamas

    The internet can sometimes be used as a vehicle for tearing other down. It can also be used as a powerful tool to encourage and support each other!

    We’re trying to create an encouraging space for women because of this exact thing at our blog: http://www.sewmanymamas.com. Each Monday, we’re featuring a different woman on our Meet-A-Mama Mondays. We’d love for women to nominate a friend (or themselves) who need a little reminder that she was created in His image, she has gifts to share with the world, and, in general, get a little encouragement. Check out our tab: Know A Mama to learn more. Hope to see many of you on Monday! (or meet you soon!)

  • Bonny

    Angie — I don’t think I’ve ever written anything on your website, but I will tell you that I’m so blessed with what you have written. I don’t read daily — or weekly, for that matter — but I do come by to be uplifted and encouraged from time to time. I, too, am a people pleaser and don’t get upset too often, but I, too, lost a child — 1 year, 2 months, and 21 days ago in a farm machinery accident. If anyone EVER says anything about my sweet boy, well… it would be a long road to recovery for them.

    Thanks for keeping the faith, for your wonderful spirit, and for putting it all out there! You’re a blessing to me!

    –Bonny Coxwell
    Summerdale, Alabama

  • Bonny

    Angie — I don’t think I’ve ever written anything on your website, but I will tell you that I’m so blessed with what you have written. I don’t read daily — or weekly, for that matter — but I do come by to be uplifted and encouraged from time to time. I, too, am a people pleaser and don’t get upset too often, but I, too, lost a child — 1 year, 2 months, and 21 days ago in a farm machinery accident. If anyone EVER says anything about my sweet boy, well… it would be a long road to recovery for them.

    Thanks for keeping the faith, for your wonderful spirit, and for putting it all out there! You’re a blessing to me!

    –Bonny Coxwell
    Summerdale, Alabama

  • Bellasaid32

    I was thinking alot about this. I actually rea rthis when you first posted it, but it made me so angry that I couldn’t comment.

    But now, I have a different take.

    Some people are lost an really really need prayer. They need spiritual intervention. They need somebody down on their knees praying mightily for their soul.

    Maybe this person who posted such horrible things was one of those people. And maybe God led them here so that they could be prayed for. Because He knows they would be. Because He knows your heart, Angie. Your sweet and kind heart. Because He knows you woul lead your readers to pray as well.

    I want to tell you that , as always, I think of Audrey everyday. She has changed my life. I would not be the woman I am without her story.

    Thank you for being a refuge, even for those who we may deem unworthy of prayer, but whom God may see otherwise.

    Much love,
    Bella

  • Bellasaid32

    I was thinking alot about this. I actually rea rthis when you first posted it, but it made me so angry that I couldn’t comment.

    But now, I have a different take.

    Some people are lost an really really need prayer. They need spiritual intervention. They need somebody down on their knees praying mightily for their soul.

    Maybe this person who posted such horrible things was one of those people. And maybe God led them here so that they could be prayed for. Because He knows they would be. Because He knows your heart, Angie. Your sweet and kind heart. Because He knows you woul lead your readers to pray as well.

    I want to tell you that , as always, I think of Audrey everyday. She has changed my life. I would not be the woman I am without her story.

    Thank you for being a refuge, even for those who we may deem unworthy of prayer, but whom God may see otherwise.

    Much love,
    Bella

  • http://www.homeswheremyheartis.blogspot.com Erin

    I just don’t get why some people are so mean and cruel. Especially concerning a precious baby.

    It’s hard, so hard, to be on the receiving end of someone’s rage. But, you have handled yourself with such integrity. I’m praying for you. I’ve been there and I know it hurts. And I’m praying that God gets a hold of the person who left those mean remarks.

    Very much looking forward to seeing you at the Relevant Conference in a few weeks.

    Blessings to you,

    Erin
    http://www.homeswheremyheartis.blogspot.com

  • http://www.homeswheremyheartis.blogspot.com Erin

    I just don’t get why some people are so mean and cruel. Especially concerning a precious baby.

    It’s hard, so hard, to be on the receiving end of someone’s rage. But, you have handled yourself with such integrity. I’m praying for you. I’ve been there and I know it hurts. And I’m praying that God gets a hold of the person who left those mean remarks.

    Very much looking forward to seeing you at the Relevant Conference in a few weeks.

    Blessings to you,

    Erin
    http://www.homeswheremyheartis.blogspot.com

  • Anonymous

    I keep learning over and over that there are some people that just have so much hurt and anger in their lives that they feel the need to explode it onto other people. There is nothing we can do to control their actions, but all we can do is pray for them. I admire you so much, Angie. I love reading your blog, and I admire you even more now, knowing that you are willing to keep your blog public to reach more people. You are loved!

  • Anonymous

    I keep learning over and over that there are some people that just have so much hurt and anger in their lives that they feel the need to explode it onto other people. There is nothing we can do to control their actions, but all we can do is pray for them. I admire you so much, Angie. I love reading your blog, and I admire you even more now, knowing that you are willing to keep your blog public to reach more people. You are loved!

  • Anonymous

    Personally, I think when you make posts like this, you’re just fueling the fire and giving people what they want. Let it go.

    • Jennylee

      If you don’t like it or agree with it then why read what she has to say? You should let it go

    • Jennylee

      If you don’t like it or agree with it then why read what she has to say? You should let it go

    • Aurora7744

      Could you say “let it go” if it was your child. You wouldn’t be a good Mother if you didn’t do something to stand up for your child.

    • Hkimble1028

      Posted as Anonymous….of course! Praying for you, just wish I had a name to pray for.

  • Anonymous

    Personally, I think when you make posts like this, you’re just fueling the fire and giving people what they want. Let it go.

  • Nickimattoon

    Angie – I am just heartbroken over this post. I do not know you, your husband, or your girls personally. What I do know is that children never deserve to be dragged into the crossfire. When things like that happen, it is because the person who is ‘having the issue’, wants to hit you where it will hurt the most, which, in this case, would be through your children. It is a cowardly, disgusting, heart-wrenching, and simply inhumane thing to do. I know you say you are ‘totally fine’, and I pray that you are (or soon will be), but know that you have permission to hurt and be angry over this attack, it is your right as a mother (and as a human being). God Bless you, your hubby, and all of your sweet girls. LOVE from a fellow mom in NY.

  • Nickimattoon

    Angie – I am just heartbroken over this post. I do not know you, your husband, or your girls personally. What I do know is that children never deserve to be dragged into the crossfire. When things like that happen, it is because the person who is ‘having the issue’, wants to hit you where it will hurt the most, which, in this case, would be through your children. It is a cowardly, disgusting, heart-wrenching, and simply inhumane thing to do. I know you say you are ‘totally fine’, and I pray that you are (or soon will be), but know that you have permission to hurt and be angry over this attack, it is your right as a mother (and as a human being). God Bless you, your hubby, and all of your sweet girls. LOVE from a fellow mom in NY.

  • Kellie Belue Jordan

    Angie… I love you, that is all i can say right now. I have never met you, but I love you!

  • Kellie Belue Jordan

    Angie… I love you, that is all i can say right now. I have never met you, but I love you!

  • Anonymous

    So proud of you Ang. You’re stronger than you think. Always will be :-)

    ~A

  • Anonymous

    So proud of you Ang. You’re stronger than you think. Always will be :-)

    ~A

  • Shawkid3

    I am so sorry that someone had such hate in their heart that they had to attack an innocent child. I lost my son to kidney defects on July 27th of this year and if ever anyone would dare say something hurtful or derogatory about my boy…Well, then God protect them because that would be the only chance they would have. I hope that this person regrets what they have written. “May those that love us love us. And for those that don’t love us, may God turn their hearts, and if He can’t turn their hearts may He turn their ankles so that we may know them by their limping.” :-)

  • Shawkid3

    I am so sorry that someone had such hate in their heart that they had to attack an innocent child. I lost my son to kidney defects on July 27th of this year and if ever anyone would dare say something hurtful or derogatory about my boy…Well, then God protect them because that would be the only chance they would have. I hope that this person regrets what they have written. “May those that love us love us. And for those that don’t love us, may God turn their hearts, and if He can’t turn their hearts may He turn their ankles so that we may know them by their limping.” :-)

  • Shirleyslee

    Just the devil!! He got an empty vessel to fill with hate!

  • Shirleyslee

    Just the devil!! He got an empty vessel to fill with hate!

  • http://tvmom74.blogspot.com/ Dionna

    I just stumbled across this post as I’ve not been too active online lately, and I must say, you have handled this all with much more grace than I could have. I follow a number of mommy blogs and I’m seeing this kind of thing everywhere. I have a blog of my own, but have neglected it for quite some time because of this type of behavior. I had no idea that other MOMS could be so ruthless and cruel. It saddens me that people will go out of their way to be cruel to others.

    Press on and keep doing what you’re doing! BTW – I am passing along your book to a teacher at my daughter’s school. She has lost two little gifts from God during pregnancy and I know that you’re words will be of great comfort.

  • http://tvmom74.blogspot.com/ Dionna

    I just stumbled across this post as I’ve not been too active online lately, and I must say, you have handled this all with much more grace than I could have. I follow a number of mommy blogs and I’m seeing this kind of thing everywhere. I have a blog of my own, but have neglected it for quite some time because of this type of behavior. I had no idea that other MOMS could be so ruthless and cruel. It saddens me that people will go out of their way to be cruel to others.

    Press on and keep doing what you’re doing! BTW – I am passing along your book to a teacher at my daughter’s school. She has lost two little gifts from God during pregnancy and I know that you’re words will be of great comfort.

  • Karen Stacy

    I just bought your book and I loved every bit of it!

  • Karen Stacy

    I just bought your book and I loved every bit of it!

  • Molly

    How could anyone say anything about sweet Audrey? I’ve got to be honest, sometimes I hold off on talking about my angel baby Eric because I could not stand the thought of someone saying anything negative about him. Once I got in an argument online about it, and it made me sick. But don’t worry, nobody can hurt Audrey, she’s in perfect peace. Thank you so much for sharing her with us, because reading your posts and remembering going through the EXACT same thing and feeling everything you do has helped so much. I’ll be praying for that person because they need it.

  • Molly

    How could anyone say anything about sweet Audrey? I’ve got to be honest, sometimes I hold off on talking about my angel baby Eric because I could not stand the thought of someone saying anything negative about him. Once I got in an argument online about it, and it made me sick. But don’t worry, nobody can hurt Audrey, she’s in perfect peace. Thank you so much for sharing her with us, because reading your posts and remembering going through the EXACT same thing and feeling everything you do has helped so much. I’ll be praying for that person because they need it.

  • Michele

    I wanted to let you know that I will be praying for you. I have, also, experience losing a baby. Unfortunately, I was not able to have the chance to get to know my little one. We lost it at 14 weeks and I almost died in the process. It has been 17 years now and it is still something that I carry with me all of the time. I have 3 beautiful children (2boys since we lost our little one). It is something that we have always shared with our children also. Our boys grew up knowing that they have a very special angel watching over them. I loved your YouTube video. It was done beautifully!!!!! Thank you for sharing your very personal, private blog. May the Lord bless you and your lovely family abundantly!

  • Michele

    I wanted to let you know that I will be praying for you. I have, also, experience losing a baby. Unfortunately, I was not able to have the chance to get to know my little one. We lost it at 14 weeks and I almost died in the process. It has been 17 years now and it is still something that I carry with me all of the time. I have 3 beautiful children (2boys since we lost our little one). It is something that we have always shared with our children also. Our boys grew up knowing that they have a very special angel watching over them. I loved your YouTube video. It was done beautifully!!!!! Thank you for sharing your very personal, private blog. May the Lord bless you and your lovely family abundantly!

  • Erin

    I am so sorry you had to go through this. I cannot even imagine anyone saying anything negative about you or your blog. I love it and the fact that you are a genuine Christian woman!

  • Erin

    I am so sorry you had to go through this. I cannot even imagine anyone saying anything negative about you or your blog. I love it and the fact that you are a genuine Christian woman!

  • Jakkiking

    Thank you precious woman for the practical example of how the gospel works itself out even in the ugly stuff of life. What man intended for evil, God intended for good. Grace to you Angie. xx

  • Jakkiking

    Thank you precious woman for the practical example of how the gospel works itself out even in the ugly stuff of life. What man intended for evil, God intended for good. Grace to you Angie. xx

  • Apriledean

    SO sorry for any of the ugly. I LOVE your blog! My hubby is an Army pilot and gone A LOT! You are such an inspiration to me and encourage me to stay true to my faith and be blessed by my beautiful children! We are all flawed human beings that are being wives, moms, and Christians as best we can. I think as Christains the big difference is that we KNOW we are sinful and flawed in need of salvation. Shame on any person being so judgemental.

  • Anonymous

    I’m just reading this. And, I’m so sorry you had to endure all of that stupid mess. I’m saying a prayer over you and your precious family tonight. May He be the thrill of your heart and your family be complete joy and love throughout your day!

    ((hugs))

  • Jenkins Aly

    Just read this today Angie. So sorry you had to deal with cruelty such as this. I just want you to know I have lifted you up and pray that you will have a blessed day. I also pray for the person who said these awful things. You are such a lovely person!

  • http://www.mycamokids.blogspot.com Lora

    I am sorry that you and your family were subject to some of the internet’s darkest side. Thank goodness you can rise above it and continue to share your light and love with us all!

    P.S. I am also very glad to hear you chose another wrap for Charlotte, since I am one of those people that emailed you :) I use my pouch sling every single day and have since my boy was about 5 months old, but those wraps are just perfect and so much safer for little tiny new ones!

  • Meg

    I am just reading back and catching up on your blog now. This post hurts me. I have no idea why people would say such hateful things about an innocent unborn babe. Unfortunately, it happens. When I was pregnant for my daughter and we were told she had Trisomy 18, I shared on a private forum about what was swirling in my head. Later when I had a politically-related disagreement with some one, I came under attack for my conservative beliefs, and they had the dispicable gall to use my unborn daughter as a weapon. Hateful hateful things. I have no idea how another mother could say such things, but they did. Thank you for your wisdom in how YOU dealt with it, and your encouragement.