Perspective

You want some insight into a blogger’s world? Here, hang on. I’ll grab the door and you add what you want to the coffee i just poured.

I wrote a post that I thought was a funny example of what I saw a mom doing in a shop. Most people got it, and most people know my heart by now. But the word “most” fades pretty quickly when you’re rocking your baby to sleep and wiping your own tears off her head. Why? Because a few others didn’t agree. I’m all about healthy disagreement, but  oh, MY.

If you’re wondering why (and I have several emails piled up from the past few months, so I know a couple of you wonder :) ) I haven’t posted about parenting or any other “personal” stuff, well….it’s because I don’t like to rock my daughter and cry on her.

Know what’s worse? When your eight year old asks you why you were crying and you say, “Because I hurt someone’s feelings.” She hugged me and told me she knew I would never do it on purpose and told me she had a broken heart. I fully expect artwork detailing her disappointment today…:)

But here’s the bottom line. I woke up this morning and I was praying and thinking about my intentions and my heart, and you know what? I’m not a mean person. And if you saw me as judgmental, smug, and spent your time picking me apart for failing to show a stranger the love of Christ, I sincerely apologize that this was what stood out. It was a commentary about our society and about my own weaknesses as a parent. And quite frankly (take a swig of your mocha) this is the reason I sometimes stick to writing about boring stuff. I’m not a shock-seeker. I swing my kids, I make their lunches, and I do my best to show them Jesus.

I’m not crying this morning, by the way. I’m really, really okay, so please don’t see this as a ploy for support :)

Honest to goodness I’m at peace and I know who I am and what I intended. My phone is full of text messages from people who are dear friends and are encouraging me, my precious nanny jumped into the comments to describe what she sees in me (and she, ummm, sees a lot…and it definitely isn’t all good), and my daughters are going to make me art :)

Those who really know me wouldn’t say that was my intention and I don’t think the Lord Himself would. He knew exactly what was in my heart when I was writing, and I need to just remember that when I’m bummed out that I feel like I hurt someone.

All that to say, here’s what I think is really, really sad.

I posted a quick blurb about how there were some unkind comments, and Y’ALL (correct apostrophe placement. Amen.).

I watched my traffic go through the roof.

Not terribly surprising, although it wasn’t my goal at all. I actually despise every moment of what I’m doing right now and would much prefer an unmedicated root canal, but I have a point worth making and I want you to hear it.

There was FAR more outrage over a post about a woman in a children’s store then there was about this.

And guess what?

I’m talking about me.

I didn’t go to bed thinking about this room (it’s the family room, bedroom 1, bedroom 2, kitchen, dining room etc. in case you’re wondering…) but about how I felt beat up and misunderstood.

Am I being judgmental? Absolutely. And I deserve that judgment.

It’s an ugly truth that I am often more concerned about my own immediate needs, desires, and petty “problems” than I am about the fact that some of my friends are halfway around the world trying to help children make it to the dawn of another day.

Lord Jesus, help me get over myself.

I’m not going to assume you see yourself in this criticism, but if you do, will you do me a favor? Please? Just read this blog post and pray about whatever the Lord puts on your heart as far as reaching out and doing something that really matters. And if it means that you don’t (ok, darn it. I don’t) get to go shop for a couple new things, then so be it.

Because if I’m going to be crying on a baby’s head, it should be about something like this.

I stand fully convicted, and I have repented to the Lord of my own sin. I apologize to anyone who inadvertently offended yesterday, but more than that, I apologize to those who don’t feel offended today.

Because if this picture and this post don’t offend you, then we aren’t doing our jobs as people seeking the God Who made Himself small so we could whisper His name.

The level of cuteness right here is out of this world. Would you pray about being a light to one of them?

Skip Gymboree. I’m pretty sure the sale is over anyway.

Go change the world instead.

 

Ang

 

 


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  • Anonymous

    Fantastic follow-up!

  • http://julesmpg.blogspot.com Julesmpg

    So proud to know you! I get you and your heart. I cried last night knowing you were hurt. None of us are perfect, not one. I’m so glad don’t have to be perfect for Jesus to love me.

  • www.jonesbones5.com

    You bless my heart!  Praise be to God.

  • http://www.justanarizonagirl.com/ JusikaG

    Angie – I read both posts this a.m. and I have to say that what you wrote about in the gymboree post is true and there have even been moments that my self as a young mother have caught my self doing it. My children don’t need clothing they need love, compassion and support. 

    There are always those out there willing to tear you down over something you just have to ride the wave. BTW I too have sat there and watched the count go up when something controversial or nasty has been said, it makes me wonder what type of society and what type of women are out there. 

    I enjoy reading your posts they always have me thinking and encourage me to better my self. Thank you.  

  • Somethingcolourful

    Wow. And I am praying just as you requested. Thanks for listening to God’s direction in your post today because this is just what my pity party needed as a wake up call!

  • onedaywiser

    :)   I JUST read the other blogpost, and wondered how it would be responded to.  :)   Such is life, I suppose.  Way to turn it around.  :)  

     I wish I had Henry Cloud’s ability to make a point without being attacked for real-life analogies, but my husband pointed out that with women and men… women seem to attack each other on an emotional level more than they will a man.  Huh.  (But we are more likely to use a real-life example, using real people, than men have a tendency to do… you know, it’s more fishing, football, cars…)

    Honestly, when we react to things, we reveal an awful lot about ourselves.

    Thank you for your honesty, and for taking a real-life example and realizing what you can take from this to improve your life, and then sharing it…  pretty amazing.  :)  

  • Chellé Wargo

    AMEN!!! I confess to not reading yesterday’s post but I’m with you when you say our attention needs to be focused on the things of God, being THE body reaching out to those in need and not being focused on self, personal circumstances or divisions so often among us.

    Thank you for this post, Angie.

  • Lori Powell

    I totally “got” that other post, and in fact shared it with all of my Christ loving, Christ seeking mom friends.  It spoke to me, and I was so thankful to read your words.  Thanks SO much for writing honestly and being real.  As a Pastor’s wife in suburban Texas, it’s easier to breathe when you are surrounded by the words of honest, real, women.  Keep writing from your heart!

  • http://profiles.google.com/tscrosby Tracey Crosby

    You indeed ARE NOT MEAN!  You ARE a loving mother, wife, friend and most importantly a daughter of the King. 

    I have been misunderstood a time or twenty.  And judged by someone with no right to judge me and I know it hurts.  And I thank you so much for putting words to this kind of hurt.

    Hope to see you and hug you again at Relevant this year.

  • http://twitter.com/sheilagregoire SheilaGregoire

    Amen! What a great post. And I totally know where you’re coming from. I’ve posted things that I thought were just FUNNY and people took me to task. And at the same time, when I post pictures of our trip to Kenya, I get hardly a whimper. Way to go! This was really beautiful. And I agree: change the world!

    Sheila from To Love, Honor and Vacuum.

  • Kristian

    you rock.
    God rocks more.
    you keep doing what you are doing.

  • http://getalonghome.com/ GAHCindy

    Was your post about incorrect apostrophe placement? LOL. I once had a lady get all over me on twitter because I like the ya’ll spelling. And it does make sense. It’s just dropping the a from “ya” instead of from “all”. ;0)

    We all mess up that way sometimes. All bloggers, anyway. I like controversy on my blog, honestly, but since I have about a 50/50 history of getting it WRONG, I shy away from actually posting what I think pretty often. Anyway, peace to you. It’s OK. 

  • Kelly B.

    Love your heart sweet Angie! Hang in there!!

  • Karen Meredith01

    As a supporter and sponsor of Compassion, I find myself following the bloggers each time a new trip takes place.  And my heart breaks each time.  (And the last three trips I’ve added an additional child to my heart’s home.)  That said, I can totally relate to what you said.  I was driving home from the grocery this morning, thinking about the post from Shaun yesterday and thinking about how I need to clean out the spare room so my niece can visit next week and it struck me.  I have this “extra” room in my home that basically serves as a catch-all for all the things I don’t know what to do with.  Things our family thought we “had” to have.  Couldn’t live without.  Now piled in a room that’s larger than most of the homes that are described in this week’s post.  It was a wake up moment.  I am not a believer in coincidences but I’ve spent the past few weeks reading books that make me uncomfortable.  David Platt’s “radical”, Craig Groeschel’s “weird”, and now Kyle Idleman’s “not a fan.”  While I cannot save the world, I can certainly change my habits and check my attitude to make sure that I am serving my beautiful God in the ways that He would want.  While wake up calls are not always fun, I’d rather be “awakened” now than stand before Him later, realizing that I hadn’t done all I could.

    blessings,
    karen

  • Becca

    Amen!! Thanks for sharing your perspective Angie.

  • Crystal Paine

    Love you, friend. Thank you for this incredible post.

    “It’s an ugly truth that I am often more concerned about my own immediate
    needs, desires, and petty “problems” than I am about the fact that some
    of my friends are halfway around the world trying to help children make
    it to the dawn of another day.”

    Amen and amen!

  • Crystal Paine

    Love you, friend. Thank you for this incredible post.

    “It’s an ugly truth that I am often more concerned about my own immediate
    needs, desires, and petty “problems” than I am about the fact that some
    of my friends are halfway around the world trying to help children make
    it to the dawn of another day.”

    Amen and amen!

  • http://ashleyscarnivalride.blogspot.com Ashley

    I have been a little behind on reading posts this week, so I didn’t read that other post until this morning. I have to say I’m very surprised that some people reacted so harshly to that post. I would think that anyone who has been reading your blog for any amount of time would know that you are definitely not a mean person! It makes me sad that people in the blog world seem to look for opportunities to cut someone down. I hope you know that those of us who read every single post know that you are a wonderful Christian wife and mom, and you are an inspiration to so many people!

  • Kelly H.

    Coming out of lurkdom for this .. I don’t understand why people feel so judgemental of bloggers.  I mean really, if you wouldn’t say it out loud — do not type it.  It’s as simple as the golden rule.

    Love your writing and I always know your  (in)courage posts.  Please don’t be discouraged, your blog = your stories from your perspective. 

    Keep it real.   

  • malloryjones

    Ang, I know I don’t know you in person, but here’s what I do know after reading your blog for 3 years:

    I know that you are a woman full of compassion for others.
    I know that you own up to your mistakes without needing others to point them out first.
    I know that you shine with the light of Jesus like few other people I’ve ever met (in person or online).
    I know that you have taken on a huge responsibility by running this blog, something that started out of sharing an immense pain with strangers, because God led you to.  I know you listen to what God asks of you.
    I know that you love people.
    I know that, like me, you would never intentionally hurt anyone.

    Lastly, I know that text makes it really hard sometimes to get your tone across.  And it really sucks when people get offended because they misunderstand you.  But this follow-up post is proof positive that you are a beautiful woman inside and out who is just trying to get through this life just like everyone else.

    Sorry, I know you said you weren’t looking for support, but I just had to say this because it hurts me to know you were so upset, and after all the support and ministering I have gotten from you over the past 3 years, the least I can do is give a little of it back. :)

  • http://www.zachsgang.blogspot.com/ zachsgang

    Hi Angie- I’ve been a reader for several years, and so often I get more out of just ONE of your posts than I get out of going to church for a month!!  I read your previous post on my phone, standing in my bathroom, at 6 o’clock in the morning…. and I cried (that frequently happens to me when I read your posts ;-) ).  The point is, the truths that you write almost always hit home for me, and I am so thankful to you for speaking the truth.  All I can say about the negative comments is that those who needed to hear something from you that would touch their heart….. well, they (I) did.  And the others…. didn’t.  That simple!  You keep writing for those of us that see the truth in your posts, and know that you have an impact in, not only my life, but the lives of my 8 children and my husband, because I take so much good away from what you write, and it gets passed along in more ways than you can imagine!  Bless you and thank you!!!!!

  • lovedbyGod2

    I love your honesty and your volunerability!

  • http://michelencindy.wordpress.com Michele

    Angie, don’t let the “most” fade. But even if they do, you know there is only One that matters. I’ve never met you, but I could see your heart in what you wrote. You know that Jesus knows your heart completely. 
    Don’t let the real enemy use one person’s view to hurt you. Well done taking advantage of the traffic increase to promote Compassion. May God bless those kids abundantly through this.
    I pray all those texts encourage you and may the peace of God saturate your soul. You seem like such a sweet, godly lady. Jesus loves you, and I bet, if I knew you, I would too.

  • http://mstublefield.com Matthew Stublefield

    I was directed here by my wife, so I haven’t read anything else by you, but I wanted to leave some words of encouragement. I rather liked the initial post, and I think you were spot on. Beyond the potential validity of your observations, it was well-written and I really liked your conclusion. Your observations about that mother’s actions spurred you on to try and be better; you recognize your own flaws, learn from the mistakes of others, and are focused on improving. It is an admirable trait.

    I would encourage you to write more about parenting and personal subjects. The Internet can be a cruel place, and there will be people who want to tear you down either because they feel convicted by what you’re writing or because they dislike Christians as a matter of course, but those topics are supremely edifying to those who do appreciate them. You took me on a ride of judgmentalism and conviction, similar to what you experienced in the moment, and that is fantastic. We need more of that.

    I’m glad to see other encouragers in the comments here, and I’m glad to read you have a lot offline as well. I add my voice to theirs, and I wish you the best.

  • http://twitter.com/QueenofDfamily Amy Dixon

    You know you’ve got it made when you get criticizing comments. It might be why I never want to “make it”. I don’t think my heart could handle it. I definitely didn’t see you as judgmental, but really, that boy was my 5 year old. I am asking EVERYBODY to please pray for me. I don’t know how my little girl got so unlucky to get such a dumb mommy as myself. My other 3 don’t seem to see it that way. I need patience with her. Because she is the kid in Gymboree.

    That post by Shaun broke my heart and made me think. You have a good heart. I have never doubted that. :)  

  • Heathercrossjordan

    I’m not entirely sure if my comment on your other post (about the Gymboree mom) was hurtful to you or not.  I sure hope not.  I was on your side and I totally understood what you were saying.  I do think my post may have been viewed as judgemental, though, and I was certainly guilty of losing my focus on what really matters.  I was judging other mothers like that one in Gymboree.  Anyway, moving on.  This was the perfect follow up.  I love how you put us in our place.  And I agree with another commenter who made the point that she doesn’t understand how we are so hard on bloggers.  As you hinted at, I suppose as a blogger you open yourself up to criticism, but it is amazing sometimes what gets all of our panties in a wad, isn’t it?!  I want to say this, though, Angie.  I don’t think you should stop posting on issues and matters of your heart such as the (now infamous!) “Gymboree Mom”.  You have a beautiful way of turning things around to get us to really see what is important and what is not.  I wonder how many people have now seen that horrifying post of the family in extreme poverty that wouldn’t have otherwise seen it had you not written the “Gymboree Mom” post.  It’s really amazing to me, because you thought it (the Gymboree post)would be so innocent (and I can fully understand why!).  Once again, I’m getting too long-winded, but my point is that you have this great blog.  You have so many people’s attention.  Do not be afraid of what you should or shouldn’t write.  Continue to write what is on your heart.  Please.  I hate that your heart gets wounded sometimes because of it, but the Lord is using you as His vehicle through all this.  If you only write about promotions and things that don’t stir emotions, I fear you will start to lose people, and God will start to lose an amazing mom and woman who delivers His messages in a way that makes us listen.  Don’t stop.  Don’t censor what your heart and God are telling you to write.  Now THAT, my friend, would be sad. 

  • Tara Lou

    I am not a mom. In fact, I’m not even married (one day. . . hopefully hoping!). I have been following your blog since the story of Audrey began. . . and I would just like to say that I know I WILL BE a great mom one day thanks to you.  Or I hope to be half as great of a mom as you. You are truly amazing. Even in your weakness, you are quite amazing. Transparency is the most beautiful thing in people. Thank you for being honest.

    I appreciate you. People’s comments will pull us down, but God’s thoughts are HIGHER. Oooo yeah! Enjoy the kiddos artwork, today!

  • Maggie Eterno

    People are crazy!   What’s funny is that they get on to you for “judging,” but as they write hurtful things and accuse you they in turn are doing what they are accusing you of doing!  (Whoa long sentence)!  I am also a blogger and it’s hard to put yourself out there but we do and what comes out of it comes out of it.  Don’t listen to the few that reacted negatively.  They obviously didn’t understand your story.  Seriously folks if you don’t have anything nice to say zip your mouth or better yet tie up your fingers and don’t type.  Anyways…I’ve read your blog for years and even though I don’t know you personally you are an incredible person!  Your strength, boldness and compassion are out of this world!  

    Hugs!
    Maggie

  • http://www.agratefulpeople.com Daniellasummers

    I’m glad you’re better today, yet more messed up (in a good way) ater Shawn’s post. I want to ask my husband to give up cable so we can sponsor a child.  Wish me luck. 

    You were on my heart last night and I prayed for you, not because you were misunderstood and broken hearted (because I know ultimately you strive to be like our Jesus, who felt the same way EVERY DAY), but because of the burden you must have felt there for a minute.  The burden of wanting to please and be liked.  So many women of all ages look up to you that I can see how it would become tempting to blog only about giveaways and such because you don’t want to let anyone down.  I’m glad you stepped it up wrote that post. You grew and then we grew in effect.  Even if you were misunderstood by some, the number of mothers  who were touch by it in SOOO many ways (raising hand) outweighed the grumpy ones by far. Eyes and hearts were opened (by God Himself, no doubt) leading us to reexamide the way we view our children and role as parent.

    Indeed, Lord help us get over ourselves and open our eys to things that break Your heart, indeed.

    • Daniellasummers

      I like the word “indeed” this morning, apparently.  Excuse me, I posted before proof reading my comment, lol!

  • http://twitter.com/jennstonehouse Jennifer Stonehouse

    Love you and your heart Angie :)   I did read this post yesterday and it has put a fire in me to sponsor another child through Compassion.  We were putting it off because of some debt we have due to a lying, horrible accountant, but you should see the house we rent! It’s a palace compared to that shack in Shawn’s post! Thank you for inspiring so many of us to greater things.  I really have to make a trip to Nashville one day and meet some of my heroes there, and you’re one of them.

  • Jennifer A

    Hugs for one amazing woman! I love Jennifer Stonehouse comment~ I completely agree!

  • Amy Martin

    I read the post yesterday and reposted it to FB…I thought it was well written about ALL of us, and I felt you included yourself in that number.  We want to pour Jesus into our children all day long, because even we will not be good enough parents to them.  Good job on pointing to the reality of what is really heartbreaking in this world…we are in the process of adopting from the Philippines and I love that the Compassion bloggers are there right now.  I have seen it.  It is truly heartbreaking.  I have stood in the middle of a community just like these we have seen and said almost out loud, “God, how can you stand this?  How can you watch this all day long?  How can you watch me?  In my middle class suburban life in North Carolina.  Please change me forever.”  What a risky prayer and OH HOW HE ANSWERED.  Bless you!  I am glad you feel better today!  ♥amy

    • http://www.audreycaroline.blogspot.com angelac519

      ok, i think i must be feeling a little oversensitive, because when i started reading this comment i thought it said, “i REPORTED you to Fb!!!!!’ i was all, “wait, what? you reported me?!?!? i didn’t even know you could do that!!!!” hahahaha!!!!! thank you so much for your kind words, and also for not, you know, turning me in.

      • Amy Martin

        Just so you know, I laughed so hard my coffee almost came out my nose when I read this!  Hilarious!

  • Jean Metcalf

    Angie you are an amazing mother and writer.  It’s interesting what people took away from your $12.99 post.  I left feeling more passion to be a better mom.  So please know, you my friend have a positive impact on lives!  I walked away focused on this comment you made:

    “I’m praying tonight for all of my fellow mommies as we navigate the
    waters of child-rearing. Lord, help us to soak them up, squeeze out
    every good thing they have to share with the world, and let them
    remember more than the time we tackled another mom to get to a froggie
    raincoat.”

    God cares about the big AND little things!   Don’t stop being you!

  • Kim

    I am so sick of people being mean to you! My goodness. 

  • http://jordaninaz.blogspot.com jordy

    I struggle with why our hearts have to be so dang tender sometimes when feelings are hurt, but I remember that that same tenderness explodes when we set out to be kind to others. It’s a heavy line to balance on and one that I’ve been struggling to find.

    What each and every one of us needs to remember is that none of us are perfect. We all spread judgment. We will all be judged one day by He Who Matters. Blogging can be tough sometimes.

    Thanks for your words and encouragement, daily.

  • Laura Smith

    I love you and am grateful for you! Thanks for this beautiful post. Thanks for your willingness to bravely put yourself out there. Being criticized is hard – I am praying today that God has His arms wrapped tightly around you. I’m the one whose husband went to high school with you in Cincy, and I’m going to WOF in Pittsburgh in October – can’t wait to see you there!

    In Him Who Keeps You,
    Laura Smith

  • http://twitter.com/BetzSmith Betsy Smith

    Lord Jesus, help me get over myself too!

    AMEN.

  • hayhay1091

      First off, I loved your follow up post today!!

      Like some others, I also am not a mother. I have been following your blog from the beginning and I have been able to see the mighty works that God has done in your life. One reason I have been able to observe that is because you have always humbled yourself, never allowing yourself to have full credit. So, anyone that has been able to get a glimpse into life can see that you were not trying to offend or talk down on anyone. 
     
     You are one amazing woman! Thank you for acting on God’s prompting!! :)

  • http://hayleyleapinginfaith.blogspot.com/ Hayley Bevel

    First off, I loved your follow up post today!!  Like some others, I also am not a mother. I have been following your blog from the beginning and I have been able to see the mighty works that God has done in your life. One reason I have been able to observe that is because you have always humbled yourself, never allowing yourself to have full credit. So, anyone that has been able to get a glimpse into life can see that you were not trying to offend or talk down on anyone.   You are one amazing woman! Thank you for acting on God’s prompting!!

  • Mollykater

    Angie,
    You certainly didn’t offend everyone. I read your post yesterday and thought about how I need to up my game with my five year old over repeatedly asking him to knock something off. He is not like the boy in your story but as a mother it is easy to “give him one more chance” because  I am involved in something and don’t want to deal with disciplining. A good reminder to ask one time and then FOLLOW THROUGH (even if it inconviences me).

    I love the compassion post too. We need to be a little more that inconvienced for our the children (and families in this world) . Our family supports a compassion child and have started a wonderful relationship over the letters. I love recieving them, helps me have perspective of what a child around the world is dealing with. (we are soo blessed here and it is easy to forget that.)

    Please keep posting whatever is on your heart. I have been a reader since right after I lost a baby, when you were pregnant with audry. We “oldies” know your heart.

    Blessings,
    Molly Smith

  • http://www.womenlivingwell-courtney.blogspot.com womenlivingwell

    Wow Angie!  So beautifully said!  Awesome!
    Courtney

  • Kelly Stamps

    This post.
    That’s why we blog. 
    The kids that might be sponsored because you wrote about them – worth every mean word we might ever get! :-)

    • http://www.audreycaroline.blogspot.com angelac519

      thank you, friend. grateful to God for who you are to me…xoxo

  • Ashlee

    Angie, 
    I am not sure if you will read all these comments and I realize you do not need sympathy, but I want to thank you as a women who is willing to be transparent.  I knew when I read your last post it might strike the wrong cord with people.  I cannot imagine how it feels to have people come down so hard on you.  You have been challenging me for years now in your posts to dig deeper and pursue a deeper relationship with Christ, not through all of your “Godly” deeds, but rather through your willingness to share your faults and fears.  Your family is precious.  
    Thank you,
    Ashlee

  • Alexandraramirez78

    I had no idea yesterday’s post caused such a ruckus.  Oh well, at least it means we got two posts in two days :)
    I’ve been following the Compassion bloggers, and their experiences have been so convicting.  The contrast between the women in the Philippines, who live in a 6×8 box and love and care for their families and the woman obsessed with clothes at Gymboree is quite something.

  • Aly J

    Your blog post today and yesterday were wonderful. I’m not sure why anyone would have taken offense to the post yesterday. I very much enjoy reading your posts. They always bring a smile to my face. Please continue being real, being Angie, being who God created you to be.

  • fern katz

    Angie-I have a hard time understanding some of what goes on in the blogosphere–I enjoy reading your blog, as well as many others.  I may or may not agree with you or others, but I am always happy to read another’s perspective.  I do not understand why there are so many who feel the need to comment with criticism, disparaging remarks, or just plain meanness.  I do, however, think that you and others do not need to defend yourselves.  It is your blog and you can say whatever you want.  If someone does not like it, they don’t have to read it.  After all, we all change the channel on TV shows I don’t like–not every blog/tv show/book is meant for every person.

    What I do think is this:  You and other bloggers are giving people something to think about.  And that is never a bad thing.  So, whether I agree or disagree, I thank you for showing me new ways to look at things and causing me to think about things I may not have thought about.  Please keep writing.

  • http://mommiediaries.blogspot.com Aly Allen

    i’ve just finished reading through the compassion bloggers’ posts. THAT is real reality and it doesn’t leave any room for self-pity, does it? especially over silly things… thank you for the reminder. thank you for being receptive to the things that God would teach you these past two days and then to be faithful to share them with us. like i said in my last comment, we need your transparency. thank you so much! 

  • http://simplelittlekitchen.blogspot.com/ Meg

    Oh please, no big deal! You got a little snarky about an annoying mom, you didn’t kill anyone or cheat on your husband. :) Are we supposed to believe that nice Christian ladies never get irritated by others? I thought it was a show of humility that you turned it around and judged yourself by the same measure. But even if you hadn’t, it might not have been the most positive observation in the world but it also wasn’t the most scandalous. People get way too dramatic on the internet. :)

  • http://loveandjesus.blogspot.com FaithHopeLoveAndJesus

    Amen. You are a beautiful woman, Angie. INSIDE and out.

  • Kathi Waddle

    The boy in the Gymboree post is why I am NOT a teacher anymore. Of course I do not know how he is in school. but I can fathom a guess. And even though I am not a parent. if his mom does not get things under control now with him then good luck to her when he is a teenager.

    And you are a great mom! I think your girls are harboring in their hearts sooo many wonderful memories that they are going to cherish forever. Like all the times you make clothes for them. You should save some of the scraps from the stuff you have made for them and make them each a quilt – that’s what my mom did or was it my Great-Grandma? I love looking at it and thinking about some of the dresses my mom had made for us. Or doll dresses – make them matching doll dresses. That’s what my mom did for one of my dolls. I still have all those doll clothes (and my dolls too!). You should also see if you can get some labels to sew into their clothes that you make that say “Made especially for you by Mommy” My Grandma would sew labels into stuff that she made for us that said “Made especially for you by Grandmother Morelock” I also loved it! And then just think they also get to have you as their school teacher! And of course all the other things that help to create great memories. 

    Just keep on keepin’ on and take it one day at a time (I am preaching to myself now even though I don’t have kids – just cats and a turtle. That’s what I have to do with the challenges that I face as I still look for work 13 months later). Enjoy each day with your kids and if it means a messy house then oh well. You will never get that day back with them.  And for a future parenting idea – when the girls are all teenagers and wanting to go out with boys, make any boy that wants to go out with them go out on a date with Todd first. It will either scare them away or scare them into doing right by them. Even if they end up going away to college – Todd can do a phone date with the guy :)

  • Jody Ray

    Oh, Angie!!  I have been stalking your blog for years.  I may have left a comment or two, but mostly stalk. ;)   I usually don’t read the comments left by others.  Your post today like all your other posts was obviously heartfelt and beautiful.  When I read your post yesterday, I loved that you were being so real.  Don’t let the negative comments get you down!!  You have touched the lives of so many who like me don’t leave the comments to let you know!  Keep on keepin’ on!!  Blessings!!

  • Cain4him

    WOW…I haven’t been by much since my hubby passed away and WOW!!  I have only experienced love, compassion, honesty and vulnerability on your blog during the past three years! You have shared a heart that is turned toward God, maturing and being stretched! I am sorry you have experienced such fussiness in the past few days yet I suppose it is just a part of being in the public eye ~ remember that no matter how many people read this blog you are still playing to an audience of one ~ The One who really Matters!!!  I Believe He Sees Beauty in You and the Words of your Heart!!!

  • http://www.growingupandtryingtogetitright.wordpress.com Amy

    I think we all have those ve moments where we are the overstressed person dealing with a situation as well as those moments that we are merely the ones on the outside looking in. I don’t have kids but I have taken my friends’ children out to play, visit museums, etc. And yes, there are times they go off into their own little world. I pull them back in, go somewhere quiet and we talk. It has never been easy or fun dealing with high spirited children who push to see how far they can go.

    And I also tend to find myself watching parents letting their kids run around, misbehave, etc. and I have forced myself to count to ten and remember that this could just be a bad day for them.

    I find the humor in it and know that I will hear these stories soon from my own friends. And I remember the stories told about me when I was little.

    Taking a moment to see their perspective is a challenge. Sometimes it comes when all you want is those few minutes to pick up what you need or maybe it is a nice dinner out with your husband or girlfriend.

    Don’t beat yourself up to much. We are human and God is there to help, pick us up and love us even when we think we are falling down on the job.

  • http://www.reid0807.blogspot.com Hannah Reid

    So, I have been following your blog for about a year now.  I first heard about you through your story (Audrey’s story)  in Home Life last year.  I remember it was Mother’s Day when I picked up that magazine.  I went home and started reading the article, knowing full well that I probably would NOT make it through. 

    It was so hard to read your story, because I had a miscarriage with my first baby.  I know it’s not the same situation, but I do understand loss.  Ever since I read that article I have been checking your blog and gaining valuable insights and inspiration with each post.  I am a pastor’s wife, a stay-at-home mom to two beautiful little girls, and will be embarking on homeschooling this fall.  There are so many things you talk about that I can relate to, and also see myself facing the same things at times.

    Your post about Gymboree was no different.  I think anyone who has followed your blog could see your heart in it.  I have totally been “that mom.”  My 4.5 year old is very independent and is constantly testing her limits.  And, my 16 month old likes to dramatically throw herself on the ground and throw a fit when she doesn’t get what she wants. It’s not pretty, but it’s motherhood.  Some days I “say all the right things” and others I go to bed thinking I could have handled situations better.

    I truly understand you were noticing things in another mother that brought to light some of your own convictions.  Don’t worry about people who get offended.  I know that’s easier said than done.  But, for my whole life I have been in ministry (I was a PK) and now married to a pastor.  I have unknowingly “offended” people or been misunderstood more times than I can count.  What I have found is that most people are offended because they really don’t like something about themselves.  Or, because THEY are feeling conviction. 

    God knows your heart.  And that’s all that matters.  “For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God?  Or am I striving to please men?  If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ.” - Galatians 1:10

    P.S.- I am bringing a group of women from our church to WOF in Indianapolis in August.  I was THRILLED when I found out that you would be speaking there!  God bless:)

  • Karabethstarr

    great post angie! 

  • Lynn Worley

    So you can get in trouble just breathin’, huh? I know it’s so very hard not to, but I wish you could just let these things slide off your back. You put yourself out there and when you do, there are going to be people who are going to be mean. Obviously you’ve been through this before and I’ve pretty much said the same things…I just hate that you have to go through this!
    Continuing to pray!
    Psalms 28:1-2 Unto thee will I cry, O LORD my rock; be not silent to me: lest, if thou be silent to me, I become like them that go down into the pit. Hear the voice of my supplications, when I cry unto thee, when I lift up my hands toward thy holy oracle.
    Prayer Bears
    My email address

  • Lynn Worley

    So you can get in trouble just breathin’, huh? I know it’s so very hard not to, but I wish you could just let these things slide off your back. You put yourself out there and when you do, there are going to be people who are going to be mean. Obviously you’ve been through this before and I’ve pretty much said the same things…I just hate that you have to go through this!
    Continuing to pray!
    Psalms 28:1-2 Unto thee will I cry, O LORD my rock; be not silent to me: lest, if thou be silent to me, I become like them that go down into the pit. Hear the voice of my supplications, when I cry unto thee, when I lift up my hands toward thy holy oracle.
    Prayer Bears
    My email address

  • http://www.sonshinensmiles.com Kristi

    Well said, Angie!  Although I think you’re apologizing and explaining yourself WAY too much! ;-P  People will criticize no matter what.  In fact, I’m about to stop subscribing to blog post comments anymore or commenting on FaceBook fan pages because of all the nay-sayers out there that would argue {endlessly} with a lamp post.   Apology & explanation done.  Yes, let’s move on! ;-)      

  • http://www.sonshinensmiles.com Kristi

    Well said, Angie!  Although I think you’re apologizing and explaining yourself WAY too much! ;-P  People will criticize no matter what.  In fact, I’m about to stop subscribing to blog post comments anymore or commenting on FaceBook fan pages because of all the nay-sayers out there that would argue {endlessly} with a lamp post.   Apology & explanation done.  Yes, let’s move on! ;-)      

  • http://thepartythatneverquits.blogspot.com Jen

    You know what? I like you so very much. xx

    • http://www.audreycaroline.blogspot.com angelac519

      you know what? it’s mutual. :)

  • Evagassa

    Your heart shines with the Lord.  You are an amazing encouragement to us all.  Keep the Faith.

  • http://bahava.wordpress.com Katy

    amen. love your heart and intentions!!

  • http://twitter.com/stacey29lincoln Stacey29lincoln

    I read that post.  I got it.  And this one too.

    Love you Angie. 

  • Shannon Dingle

    Oh, girl. I just finished reading Shaun’s post and just finished drying my eyes. And then I come over here to start the waterworks all over again.

    Thank you.

  • Anonymous

    Amen!!!!! You are so right sister. My phrase here lately to myself and a few others…ahem…has been “get over yourself” and do something hard for the Lord.

    Thanks for the perspective. We all need it.

    And I adore your heart and honesty.

  • Amy Riep

    Hi Angie – I’ve enjoyed your words and your gifts (hello, Bloom!) via InCourage – and today is the first time I’ve been on your personal blog. I so appreciate your transparent sharing – and though it invites some to feel critical or to place judgement – it’s evident it’s about provoking thought, starting discussion, and getting people thinking… and most importantly – challenging hearts to be more like Jesus. Thank you for inviting others to journey with you.

  • Sarah Mae

    Hugs hugs hugs! And, yes!

  • Amanda

    Just wondering where all the naysayers are today….pretty sure you shut them up with this post! Not sure why people feel a need to tear others down. I mean it’s not like they are forced to come here and read what you have to say. Last time I checked everyone has that little red x in the top right corner.
    I am so thankful our value is not found in what others think or say about us….but it is found in the Lord. I have to constantly remind myself of that. Rick Warren tweeted something the other day…and this situation brought that tweet to mind….

    If criticized by one who’s never met you,IGNORE it.They’re exposing THEMSELVES! It’s NOT about you.Don’t take it personally~Rick Warren

  • Coby

    And…AMEN!  Angie, it was through reading your blog that I felt the conviction of the Lord to actually DO SOMETHING to share the love of Christ to poor children (rather than just thinking about it).

    I so appreciate your honesty and transparency about being a wife and mom, and your walk with the Lord.  I have a hunch that it’s those things that really encourage people.   ;-)

  • whoivealwaysbeen

    Well okay then. Trying to take in a whole new level of cuteness.

  • whoivealwaysbeen

    Well okay then. Trying to take in a whole new level of cuteness.

  • http://tousey.wordpress.com Jenn

    Angie, you could not have said it better. I put up a sticky post about the Philippines trip and how to sponsor a child, and only one person actually clicked on the link the whole week. One person. The post I did about women over-sharing info on FB got the most hits of any post I have ever done outside posts about my daughter’s hospital stays.

    It is SO hard not to be cynical.

    But just to encourage you, I have the sweetest picture of a nine-year old boy on my fridge. His name is Pradeep, and we never would have “met” him if you hadn’t gone to India. 

  • Anonymous

    Angie, the fact that you shed tears because of some of the comments made and that you might have offended some people speaks volumes of who you are.  I read the post, I was not offended at all.  I have followed your blog for a few years now and also read your posting at encourage and did the book club series with Ann Voskamp and looking forward to “The Fitting Room.”  You are a humble, genuine woman of God, and we love you.  You have been such a blessing and encourager in my life and I thank you for that.  

  • Nicki

    Oh, Angie, I so love that you shared these posts!! I read your heart and I understand because I have seen this, and I know that you mean no harm or foul with these words. I feel the encouragement and love pour out to the rest of us. It is for these reasons that I come back to you time and again for this hug from afar.
    Thank you for sharing with us! I thank God for you!!
    LuvNHugz – SupportNPrayerz

  • David

    wow. interesting

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  • David

    wow. interesting

    dbarrett1@myfastmail.com

  • http://twitter.com/InspiredRD Alysa Bajenaru, RD

    I have chills all over my body right now. Thank you Angie.

  • Jenny W

    Amen Angie! Amen! 

  • Lindsaymfinley

    LOVE when you post about parenting. In fact just the other day I was thinking I wish she would write a book about parening. I think you are a wonderful mother and I feel like I always learn so much from you.

  • Acwmpw

    Angie, I am not one to comment on your posts.  I just like to read and feel encouraged :) .  I have been struggling a lot recently and thought I would take the opportunity to vent a little.  I am a full time working mom of a two year old and an eleven month old.  Up until now, I have felt like I am doing enough as a mother. My husband works two jobs ( in law enforcement ) and I work one full time.  The kids are in daycare, but we spend as much time with them as possible.  I have prayed for God to make a way for our finances to allow me to be a stay at home mom, but the door just hasn’t opened.  Don’t get me wrong, the daycare that my kids attend is wonderful!  My kids are socially wonderful!  My two year is so smart and I thank them for filling in when I can’t. This morning, my little girl told me she was ready to go home.  I told her that we were home.  After a few minutes of talking to her, I realized that she was talking about “school.”  It broke my heart.  She spends 6 hours of her day at “school” and she thinks its “home.”  Needless to say, I have not done well with this.  I am not angry that I have to work,  God has blessed me with an amazing job and a very great boss that allows me to be flexible in taking off with them.  I know that there are tons of moms that work, but I just feel like it isn’t fair.  I need my babies to KNOW where their home is.  Your blog encourges me everytime I read it.  Thank you for being so transparent. 

    Brandi

  • Andie

    Hi Angie! I wanted to share a (hopefully) quick story with you in the hopes that I might make the point I am hoping to make.

    This past weekend my beloved sister married the love of her life. We have been preparing for this wedding for so long and we all spent the morning doting on my sister and telling her how beautiful she looked (and boy did she ever look gorgeous :) ). She received compliment after deserving compliment but my most favorite moment of the whole day came just as she was about to walk down the aisle. She turned to my mom and I (we walked her down) and asked “do I look OK?” I teared up just then thinking of the fact that despite how many times she had been told that day how stunning she was, she had to check just one more time to make sure she looked the way she wanted to for her groom.

    As I read your post and the comments that followed I couldn’t help but compare you to my sister. You receive so many deserving compliments about your sweet heart and wonderful passion for the Lord, but in a situation like this you’ve got to check just one more time to make sure you are who you want to be for Him. And that is a good thing; I believe it is one of the things that pleases Him most. By humbling seeking your answers you are growing in your relationship with Him and others. I hope He blesses you as you ask questions for the same reasons my sister did.

    But also please remember that the Lord, just like my new brother-in-law, loves you and will always see the beauty in you.

  • LisaMarie

    Ridiculous how people get offended! Your story, sadly, happens to all of us mothers at some point or another and seeing like it is, which is how you posted it, is good for us. It helps to keep those moments to a minimum. Thank you for posting reality!  Thank you for your heart!

  • http://myangelwithgod.blogspot.com/ Amy von Oven

    AMEN!  God has really given you a gift. A gift to make us ALL sit back and really think about what matters in this World. So many times I walk by my daughters urn, and it is like God is telling me to stop and look. Stop and look at what I don’t have and be SO blessed for what I do, because SO many people in this World are hurting in ways I can’t even imagine. It is a great reminder to stop and pray for others, and that it is NOT all about me. Thank you for your willingness to make us ALL stop and think!

    Much Love, Amy von Oven

  • Sarah

    I so wish I could be right there with those precious kiddos and their families…I would give it all up today for the chance to wrap my arms around them and show them God’s unfailing love. Pray God would open a door…